Interesting parenting question...?

Question

I was just curious as to what your thoughts are on getting your teen aged daughter on birth control.

I know there's people who feel that if they get their daughter on birth control, then it is just condoning her going out and having promiscuous s*x.

There are others that feel that, though they don't want to imagine their little girl out doing things like that, they'd rather know that she's protected against any unplanned pregnancies.

And there are still others that feel that it's unnecessary, and that talking to her and having an "open relationship" with one another will prevent it all in itself.

So I'm just curious as to what everyone else's feelings are on this topic.

Answer 1

My opinion is that it should be a combination of the three as in talking and having an open enough relationship where you can get your daughter on birthcontrol and tell her look, i don't want you doing this but i know sometimes things happen and go to far. so if that happens i want you to be protected.  saying they don't want to give them birth control because it promotes s*x is saying giving them birth control is the only thing that promotes it. hate to break it to those parents s*x promotes itself. you can look the other way all you want. it is a natural process that is vital to the continuation of the species it targets everyone of breeding age and biologically that is the minute the body starts ovulating.

Answer 2

I'm not a parent, but to be honest as much as you might not want to envision your daughter having s*x, it's a whole lot better knowing she's being honest and telling you she's at that stage, and knowing she's not going to wind up with her own child in 10 months time.

Answer 3

I have a 10 month old daughter and I think that when she gets to that age, I will talk to her about it, and let her know that she needs to respect herself and if she plans on having s*x before marriage it should be with someone who respects her. After I believe she understands this I will let her know that whenever she needs them to let me know and I will take her to the doctor.  

Answer 4

I think the key is an open relationship & then possibly birth control. I would want my daughter to be able to talk to me and feel like she could tell me something that was on her mind and had been bothering her. As a parent I would also like to be intuitive enough to know if my daughter was in a relationship and possibly sexually active. I would also know my daughter's personality to know if she was the kind of girl who strongly believes in abstinence and wouldn't be having s*x or ( I wouldn't want to be calling my daughter a s**t and know that she has been sexually active and not do anything about it) but lets just say, that she was curious and may possibly be thinking into the idea. Then I would have a long conversation with her to tell her about the consequences of her actions, how to always be safe, not to be pressured, ect. Ultimently though, I would put her on birth control because even though she says she won't do it and I don't like the idea of it, I know that teenagers change their minds and don't always think situations through, so I would rather know she was being safe. Does that make sense? Hey I'm only 14, but that's what I will do if I have a daughter.

Answer 5

I don't want to imagine the things my girls and boys will be doing when they're teens, lol.  I can only hope that by being open-minded and understanding, I can build a trusting relationship with them.  But all that aside, I will be taking them for b/c.  I plan on being open and talking to them about things.  I'm not judgemental in the least bit and they will be raised to know this, just like I was.  So hopefully, they'll come to me when they're ready for s*x, just like I did with my mother.  Of course, I'll try to persuade them to wait and go over every little thing that can possibly happen to them, but teens are teens (I was a rebellious one to a point, lol).  And I think that if they are old enough for me to be informing them of everything, then they are old enough to know which decisions they will make, whether they are mistakes or not.

And when they do decide they are ready and we've talked, I'm still going to take them for b/c and make sure they're supplied with what they need.  And if an unexpected pregnancy should come along, I'll be right there with them, teaching them how learn from it to be a more responsible parent and person.  Should they end up with an STD, all I can do is support them the best I can.  It's not like I would love them any less.  But like I said, hopefully I'll raise them good enough to be able to prevent that from ever happening.

Being a parent is a world of unexpected everything.  You can be the best parent in the world and yet, you'll still have some mishaps.  It's all a part of the experience.  You just hope for the best, but prepare for the worst.  And you make sure that you've tried everything possible to be the best for your children.

Awesome question, by the way.

Answer 6

personaly i think you should be able to sit down with her , have a heart to heart and find out just how far she is into things that. but wheather ppl like it or not teenagers will evenutaly become sexualy active so it is better to be safe and well knowleged about it then to see a ten year old 3 months prego (real story). Of course there is always handing your kid an egg or bag of flour or w/e and saying congratz...meet ur new baby for the next 2 weeks.

Answer 7

I have a 13 year old daughter, who doesn't even seem interested in  boys yet and can't date til she's older so I wasn't worried about birth control yet, I have two boy crazy nieces that are on BC due to painful periods but their mom feels better knowing that if something does happen to the she will not be a grandma at an early age, so I feel it all has to do with the child, the situation, and the circumstances.  I don't believe that just because a parent puts a teenager on BC that that gives her a free license to go out and have s*x, because my boy crazy nieces don't feel that way.

Answer 8

The birth control pill is a drug, a medication that only should be given if it is necessary. That means if your daughter needs birth control then yes by all means ask her if she would like to make a dr. appt. so they can prescribe this necessary medication to prevent her from getting pregnant. If you openly ask her if she is having x*x and she says no, then I would not advise her to go on this medication; just make sure you also tell her that if she ever decides to become xxxually active to please not hesitate in coming to you so you can provide her with the pill.  The decision has to be hers. You are a good mom to be concerned; but you need to have a valid reason for giving your child medication of any kind. Even birth control pills have side affects.