Interracial couples black/white?

Question

do you think a white guy can date a black girl and really love her ? I am not the ghetto type or anything, actually I am from Africa and I am in College and since I am new to this country I kind of need some advice. I want the truth, I mean, I wonder if his friends are going to discourage him. Is it worth it or is it just trouble? I know some black guys/white girls couples but I have rarely seen any black girl with a white guy. Why is that? I have nothing against dating outside my race but if it's just going to make me cry, is it really worth it? If yes, how should I treat him, I mean, what do they like, what do they dislike in a girl, I know every person is unique no matter what color they are, but I just want to have a cultural idea. Thanks for your honest answers.

Answer 1

I was raised by two parents, one was prejudiced and the other not. As I gained some maturity I soon learned the prejudice was only a way for my parent saying they have a hatred for their own feelings. Close your eyes and you couldn't tell a bit of difference, "whoops!" I forgot you are a human."

Answer 2

I have known several happily married couples of the kind you are asking about. Their is no guarantee that you will or won't be hurt because of someones color. Why are the people from Africa the only people in the word that say what continent they are from but not their country. Are all Africans ashamed of their countries?

Answer 3

Yes, I will answer your question honestly.  It's important to be honest with questions like these, even if some people are too sensitive.  The fact is that the one ethnic subgroup that is most unlikely to marry out of there group is black women.  There are different theories for this.  My theory is that, in general, black women do not want to betray their men.  They feel betrayed if they see a black man going out with a white woman.  It hurts them.  I don't think there's anything wrong with that.  It's normal.  I get somewhat hurt myself when I see a white woman going out with a black man.  Black women feel that "their" men, so to speak, are already villified by American society and they don't want them embarrassed in public.  They have much loyalty to them.  Since you are an African and not from the USA, you are somewhat exempt from this.  The truth is, even if many will deny it, that white men, in general, will find black women from Africa to be more polite and less aggressive.  I lived in Africa for a year and I know the African people.  They are very non-violent and quite polite as a rule.  This sets you apart from African Americans, even though many people will decry this statement as being politically incorrect.  Your questions are valid, so don't let people criticize you.  There most certainly *are* cultural differences between Africa and the USA.  I am happy to risk being criticized or even deleted or censured in order to speak these truths to you.

Answer 4

Robert Deniro

Brian Musso

Luca Orlandi

.. these are some of the celebrity men who married black women, and coincidentally they are all Italian lol. Trust me, there are white guys who are INTO black women.... maybe you dont come across them where you live. Do you live in the south? You should move to Minnesota.. plenty of interracial couples.

Answer 5

White or black or plaid, he is a man. White or black or plaid you are a woman. Love is blind. You should expect to be respected from everyone that you treat with respect. Be yourself. Someone will find you absolutely amazing I promise. Unless you are Shirley McClain you only live once....make it a happy life. You are totally worth it. Peace to you.

Answer 6

If I found a black woman who was really into rock music and motorcycles it would be hard for me to find her race an issue.

Answer 7

There are alot of black women/ white men relationships that do work out very well to the point were they get married and as for you if you do date a white guy you and him would have alot in common and his friends would discourage him cuz if he really loves you he would not dumb you to be with his friends and he would not care what anyone thinks of him dating you!

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Answer 8

Black/white?  Start thinking man/woman.  That will take the "pressure" off the cultural differences.  Relax, have a good time.  Racism still exists, but not nearly like it was years ago.

Answer 9

absolutely! love doesn't come in one shade of color.

Answer 10

I really hope you won't give up on a chance for real love because of race issues. It is true that there is a lot of subtle racism out there, and that will probably be challenging. But I encourage you to try to get to know this guy. Ask him what HE likes... I can't really give you a "cultural idea" of what all white men like... I think you know that's a silly question.  

Open your heart and give it a try. I hope you find something real that transcends narrow ideas about race and culture. And I bet you get a lot more positive messages from people than you are expecting.