Interracial relationships?

Question

I am in a interracial relationship and even though we love each other a lot we have lots of differences because of our cultural and race background. At the beginning of our relationship and now I been through a lot of nasty remarks and ppl being down right hurtful. It came from his family, his friends and my friends and strangers period.

I was wondering what your take is on it. Any similar stories?

Answer 1

I'm in an interracial marriage. We do get some strange looks from people in the street occasionally but for the most part people are nice. I have to admit we do look like an odd couple.

Answer 2

I'm white and I'm dating an Asian.  The only problems we have had were with his mom who wanted him to date an Asian.

My sister is dating a black guy and his black women friends basically attacked her when they started to date (long time ago).  They treated her like ****.  His family didn't respect her either.  There were some people in my family who were stupid too but not to the same extent.  

Answer 3

I can appreciate the situation your in, being a BM/WW interracial couple my girlfriend and I have experienced a few moments of public disdain. Her family, though, has represented the biggest challenge to our relationship, relatively speaking. The most taxing of which was having her brother parked outside my house screaming epithets and profanity while I watched my children inside.

Ultimately, in spite of these instances, we remained mostly unaffected by them. We realized some time ago that that our relationship is about us and no one else. No couple in history has existed without haters; interracial couples merely face the most incendiary type. For various reasons, a relative may not like a person’s choice of mate – they may not have a good enough job, have kids, be from the wrong family or any number of reasons – but when the issue is one of race it seems particularly difficult. Cultural/social differences that exist already only heighten the sensitivity to family and society’s disapproval.

No matter what, your relationship should only concern itself with you and your partner’s feelings about one another, and the level of commitment you each have toward it. These are the most important considerations in any relationship because they determine how challenges are met by both of you; how you rate these aspects will dictate how you respond to each other and the relationship, in general, in times of conflict.

As for the looks and comments of outsiders, even family, try to keep this negativity toward your relationship in perspective. Race is a delicate subject on its own, when it is applied and scrutinized on something important to you the situation is perceived as especially hurtful. But, all things being equal, interracial relationships have no ‘real’ special claim to family/societal resistance, a lot of times it just feels that way. There are those for whom this actually is the case, but that is no reason to allow it to affect the feelings and commitment of the union itself.

By the way, that incident outside my house happened nearly a year ago. Just recently, my girlfriend relayed to him how I told her I respected his opinion at least because he was honest. I didn’t “kill him with kindness” or “bend over backwards” to try and change his feelings, but he did convey to her that he could respect me for showing the same. This won’t get me invited to dinner at his home anytime soon, but it goes to show that it is possible to not let others opinions interfere with your relationship.

Answer 4

No, i think interracial relationships are the best way to end racism.

Me, well i am the eurasian offspring of one.

As long as your partner loves you, don't worry about what they rest think, they are to put it bluntly being racist!

Its a wonderful way to connect cultures and create a new mixed one.

Actually in my family there are three interracial relationships, but all european and asian.

Anyway it doesn't matter if you both love each other ignore those racist people around you.

:)