Intimidating_______What do you think?

Question

I graduated valedictorian of our class (388 people), got my eagle scout at 13 years old, was president of the:student body, national honor society, beta club, teenage republicans, student council, and the mayor's youth council. I also hold down a part-time job at a law office as a clerk. I plan to double major in political science and english and then plan to attend law school. I like to hunt, fish, trap shoot, ride four wheelers, boat, camp, golf and play my guitar. I admit that I can come off as unapproachable or shy but I am working on that. In spite of all this I can't even get a girl to give me a second glance. How can I remedy this problem? Would you share any advice that you might have? Do I intimidate people? Am I unapproachable? Thank you in advance.

Answer 1

just try talking to girls first. become friends wiht them and just be freindly to alot of girls that are friendly and nice. you dont necessarily have to only talk to a girl to get her to be your girlfriend. its better when you start out as friends. so dont stress too much. you need to start the convos. since you are really smart they may think that you woudnt go for a girl like them, if they are ugly, or dumb. they may thnk they wont hold up to your potential and that may make them scared. so you talk to them first and jsut be nice, sweet, and yourself. good luck!

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Answer 2

...And how do all of these girls know this.

1.try not to flaunt it

2.be fun and hang out with a lot of guys that girls find attractive

3.when you find a nice girl talk about her

4.kick that smile

Answer 3

I find it is easiest to approach girls when they are alone. I use to be very shy also. Approach them at the library, starbucks, theatre, bowling alley, or anywhere. Make statements or ask questions about the environement you are in or something they are wearing or carrying. If she answers you with short or one word answers it is a sign to move on. If she opens up and starts asking you questions she is interested to know more. The key is do not feel bad if she does not accept you. Just move on.... It may not be that she doesn't like you but she had a bad day or just doesn't want to talk. Don't ever get discouraged.

Answer 4

Lee,

  I hope you don't run down your resume with everyone you meet- I mean people shouldn't know all your achievements if they meet you for the first time-that would come across as bragging-which is a turn-off and NOT intimidating.  But lets assume you are just talking about people who know  about some of your achievements because they went to school with you-well I would say in general woman do not get intimidated by mens achievements!!!!  Woman and girls however-do get intimidated by men and boys who are not friendly, however.  The key to success with girls is to be friendly. Say "hello" ask "how are you doing?"  Don't worry about making a romantic connection-just talk to them-with the intention of forming a friendship- (girls will get scared off if they think you have an alterier motive-just be a friend-romance can come later-give yourself time to get to know the girl-see if you really like her-if you really click!)-just show an interest-listen to what people have to say-and probe them more deeply when they make a comment-ask them to explain further or tell you more.  When you take the attention off your self and place it on others that is very attractive.  That draws people to you!!! Focus on others!! You already know what you're about!! Found out what they are about!  People will love you for taking a genuine interest in them! But do share your experiences too-just make sure you get them talking about themselves!!!  It's counter intuitive -but the more someone gets to talk about themselves the more they enjoy the conversation!! KEY TO LIFE-LET PEOPLE SHINE IN YOUR PRESENCE-YOU WILL HAVE LOTS OF FRIENDS AND WOMEN WILL LOVE YOU!

Answer 5

You sound full of yourself and arrogant, Most girls do not like that, sorry

Answer 6

Sigh, I don't know what others think, but you sound awesome, not arrogant at all. You are making something of yourself and I hope you continue to do so. There are few guys like you out there. I would say that if any reason was to be given for girls not being interested is because they think you would be to out of their reach. Oh I am so glad that guys like you exist. Never let down your standards for a girl, or anyone else. You just need to be patient the right girl will come who thinks the world of you, I know it is hard now because you aren't getting the attention you want from girls but you will meet a better girl in the long run who has the same values. Good like, stay awesome!!

Answer 7

Smile :D and be happy. and confident, but not arrogant.

Answer 8

Make sure you look good in appearance. Maybe some people might think you are too high-class for them.  

Answer 9

calm down and mabe u r ugly but idk cuz there is no pic. answer mine

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Answer 10

Whoa! Do you make sure potential girlfriends know all of these accomplishments? They are very impressive, and you deserve congratulations for your hard work and ambitious plans, but there's no way you can let a girl know all this and still attract her. Smile and show your interest in a girl and let her get to know you gradually.

I don't know if this is you, but some guys work too hard making themselves look good, when actually the girl a guy is interested in wants to see signs that *she* is impressing *him*. When someone thinks you approve of her, like her, find her interesting, that in itself is a big turn-on.

As to whether you intimidate people or are unapproachable, only you and the girls who might like you can tell you that, but keep working on being approachable, in a casual way.  

Another thought: I (a woman) was valedictorian, national honor society, etc., and got a scholarship at a very good college, my first choice, but in high school my social life was practically nil. It picked up a bit in college, but I didn't care too much about it, as I was too busy enjoying studying. This all works out in the end, though, and I am sure you will find a girl who not only appreciates you, but also is a good match for you. Try not to care too much, so you don't come off as needy.  

Answer 11

you sound like a very well rounded individual with alot going for you. i have never met or seen a person that was unapproachable, except maybe if they were on fire i could see how that could be pretty unapproachable. but maybe its your clothes or how you present your self in a public place. clothes are kind of like and expression of who you think you are. so girls especiall look at that ****. make sure you come off a very clean,hygienee is very important. when first meeting some that when you need to be at your best. other than all that ****, dont light youself on fire and you should be getting "jigy with it" any time now.

Answer 12

Not that intimidating. People should want to meet you, but maybe you come off as cocky... In either case, you should be the one to start convos with people. Seriously, with all that going on, don't expect a girl to approach you. They probably might think you're constantly busy. Try to give off an easy-going, humble vibe.

Answer 13

Maybe you present yourself as being to good for anybody. be yourself dont brag on accomplishments even though they are nice. work on who you are and the personality you have, that should be what the  future partner will be looking for .

Answer 14

I dated someone much like you in college.  He planned to go on to law school (which he did) and he had political aspirations (as far as I know he hasn’t yet accomplished that goal, but I wouldn’t be at all surprised if he did eventually obtain it).  I did not find his accomplishments/goals to be at all intimidating.  I found them admirable.  

But like many over-achievers...

--He was overly proud of his accomplishments.  He constantly bragged about them/found some way to work them into the conversation (clearly in the hopes of impressing others).  There’s nothing wrong with pride, but there is such a thing as too much of it.

--Because he was so proud of the things that he’d done, he often gave off the impression that he felt superior to those who had not accomplished as much (and frankly, it wasn’t just an ‘impression’—he did feel superior, to some degree at least).

--He spent so much time focusing on accomplishments that it seemed like that was all he cared about.  Women find other things equally important (and often, more important).  Things like compassion, consideration, trustworthiness, integrity, etc.  *And in this post you listed all these accomplishments but didn’t mention a single word about your ‘human’ qualities.*        

--He was very passionate about his political beliefs.  There’s nothing wrong with that at all.  I like people are passionate about their beliefs.  But he was so passionate and so sure that he was right (and anyone who held different beliefs was wrong) that he was constantly trying to convert people to his way of thinking.  That gets irritating very quickly.  There’s nothing wrong with the *occasional* debate, but there is something wrong with not respecting other people’s right to disagree with you.  

Now, do any of those things apply to you?  I don’t know, because I don’t know you, but if I were a betting girl, I’d lay money that at least some of them apply, and women don’t find these things attractive (which is why my relationship with him didn’t make it past the one-year mark).

Answer 15

I could flip you over my back and kill you in 67 different ways with my hands...no, you're not indimidating to me...

But to answer the real question...You may come off as that way...girls will think you think too much of yourself. Go down to their level, they probably take the shyness as thinking you're above everyone, you know? Get down and dirty! SHOW them that you're NOT above everyone else!

Answer 16

When people meet you they aren't going to be aware of all those things you listed as accomplishments.  So, with that in mind....there's got to be another reason why girls don't show interest in you.  Do you brag?  Bragging is very annoying!  You should be proud of your accomplishments, but never brag about them.  You'd know if you're unapproachable....are you?  Maybe that's what it is???....

Answer 17

well you seem so busy doing all this other stuff do you have time to go out bro but you should try online dating that will work  better for you in my opinion if you don't go out alot you know so try that see how it works out if that doesn't work maybe you find somebody at your law school you was talking about hope you find somebody but hey i like that you do all that stuff but i i was like oh no your a republican lol joking

Answer 18

After high school, no one will know or care that you were the president of the teenage republicans club. Seriously. Don't be one of those guys that talks about how awesome they were in high school when you are 30.

Just work on talking and getting to know different kinds of people. Don't limit yourself to any one person or group. You are approachable if you present yourself to be.

Answer 19

No. That's not intimidating, especially if the girl is smart. And it's not like you're going to start a conversation listing your accomplishments. Just be more friendly. The girls may not approach you because they want you to approach them. Just be more relaxed, look somewhat happy, and try to be a tad less shy. Be approachable by not looking closed off (body langage,etc.)

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Answer 20

All thats great about you. But what about the other persons likesand dislikes?The world just dosent spin because of you.Try being interrested in other peoples Talents and likes and dont likes.Im not saying your a bad guy.But it sounds like thats all you think about.

Answer 21

No, I wouldn't say you are intimidating,  but to someone who is insecure and on the not so intellingent side you might me.  Unapproachable perhaps since you keep yourself very busy!  lol

Good luck and congratulations for your drive and ambitions!