Invitation question?

Question

My parents aren't going to pitch in for anything,so do I still have to put them on the invitation?I don't wanna be rude and not put them on there.

Answer 1

yes parents go on the invitation no matter who is paying. i paid for my own wedding and we worded it like this

You are invited to the marriage of

Jane Smith

daughter of Mr and Mrs Ed Smith

and

Joe Schmo

son of Mr and Mrs Bob Schmo

Answer 2

Well I think that would be selfish if you didn't...

Why can't you sit down and talk it out???

Maybe they can not afford to help you out..

Answer 3

You don't have to, but to avoid any hurt feelings, it may be best to word it as

Together with their parents (or families)

Jane Doe

and

John Smith

invite you to celebrate their marriage

etc.

This way they feel as if they're included, but you aren't calling them out specifically.  This is what we did and we paid for most of our wedding.

The two of you know your parents best - do what will cause the least conflict...an invitation is just a piece of paper, but the marriage means they'll be in your lives for quite a while!

Answer 4

Nope you don't. If you still WANT to then you can but since they're not hosting then it's not necessary to add them.

Answer 5

if your parents were making a contribution then it would be correct ettiquette for them to be inviting guests, however as they arent, it is up to you to if you want to put them on. However I would suggest discussing it with at least your mum before ordering the invites

Answer 6

I say its your wedding and if you are paying for it then it is not selfish to not put them on the invitation

Answer 7

its not rude if they aren't paying...

Answer 8

Yes, having their names on the invitation has nothing to do with who is paying, it's a matter of respect and showing who you are the daughter of, and who your fiance is the son of...

Answer 9

Congratulations on your upcoming wedding. We just got married on jun 01, just over a month ago. Even though both our parents did not pay for the wedding but we had their name on the invitation anyway. To our Asian culture; it's always a good way to honor your parents and to pay respect to them.  I'm sure your parents and your in law would be very happy to see that. It's also a great start of a new relationship with your future in law.

Good luck and I hope this would help.

Answer 10

It's your wedding not theirs, so if you do not want to you do not have to, honesty I think it is quite rude they are not pitching in (unless of course they do not have the money) but I don't think you would be asking this question if they didn't. At least they could pay for your dress or bouquet or something. If they are not sending the invitations then it would make no sense to put "Mr. and Mrs. Smith would like to invite you to the marriage of their daughter.... " Because they are not inviting them you are.

Answer 11

no, you dont have to put them on there if they are not contributing

We joyfully invite you to our wedding celebration.

On this day we will marry the one

we laugh with, live for, dream with, love.

Please join

Bride

and

Groom

at Time

on Date

Two thousand and four

Place

Buffet dinner and dancing to follow.

http://offbeatbride.com/2007/12/wedding-...

Answer 12

Put them on the invitation and stop being petulant. You love them, you want them to be a part of your life regardless of whether they spend money on you, right? So put them on the invitation and move on.

Answer 13

No you do not, if they are not helping you do not have to acknowledge them on the invite but keep them in the ceremony

Answer 14

Hi   You can do it either way.

You can have the invitation be issued by you and your fiance:

Samantha Jo Brown

and

Scott Thomas Smith

invite you to celebrate with them

as they exchange wedding vows

and begin their new life together on

Saturday, XXXXX

etc., etc.

OR, make it more traditional:

Mr. and Mrs. William Brown

request the pleasure of your company

at the marriage of their daughter

Samantha Jo

to

Scott Thomas Smith

son of

Mr. and Mrs. Paul Smith

Saturday, XXXX

etc., etc.

Either way would be correct.  If you feel you want to include your parents names (even though they are not contributing), it is perfectly acceptable!  It is also acceptable to issue the wedding invitation from you and your fiance.