Invite out of town guests to the wedding shower?

Question

I am throwing my friends wedding shower and wonder if I should invite out of state guests who I know are invited to the wedding. We live in Chicago and her grandmother and some aunts live out in TX, should I send out an invitation? We doubt they would be able to come sense they are coming up already for the wedding but would it be the polite thing to do?

Answer 1

If the out-of-towners are family, then it might be nice to send invitations. But for non-family, it's unnecessary.

You may want to ask the bride to review the guest list before you send invitations out - you'd hate to leave someone off inadvertently.

Answer 2

You could add a special note to the out of town guests simply saying, we know you may not be able to come but wanted to let you know you were thought of....

Answer 3

Weddings are an important part of family life, everyone should be invited.  Even if it were not likely that they come, they would at least have the option.  They get to choose if they want to come, if they were not even invited, there might be hard feelings later on.  

Also, maybe they will send the bride gifts!  That is always a good thing!

Answer 4

only if you know the out of town guests are going to be in town when the shower is taking place.  otherwise, don't worry about them.

Answer 5

I would send invites to close family - def the grandmother & most likely the aunts.  However, I wouldn't invite other OOT guests.

Answer 6

Yes, deff the main family members wether or not they are close by or in another state.

Answer 7

Please invite them.

I invited out of town guests with "courtesy invitations."  I know they wouldn't come, and they didn't, but they were happy to receive the invitation.  It saves you from making someone feel bad or left out if they didn't get one.

Good luck!