Invites- why do the people invited invite more?

Question

in our culture before the wedding day we have a large party for all the grils/women who are going to attend the wedding,

in a way they prep the bride

now these things are meant to be NO BOYS/MEN of any age allowed, but i noticed uncles, and children popping up.

how do i word it nicely that i do NOT want any men/boys as i wana have some fun with the girls?

Answer 1

The etiquette rules are (1) every person gets invited by name, even tiny children and (2) only those actually invited may attend. The problem is that you can't put etiquette rules on your invitation because that would be insulting -- it would imply that you think recipients are too ignorant to ALREADY KNOW that they shouldn't bring additional uninvited people, or so boorish as to ignore etiquette unless you warn them to behave themselves.

Until the invention of RSVP cards this wasn't of a problem. RSVP was done by phone and the people taking and making the calls were prepared to say things like "There is some misunderstanding; I see Wilma and Betty on the guest list but no Fred or Barney. Are you sure the gentlemen received invitations?" or "I'm sure Bridey and Groomster would love to meet your new sweetie sometime soon, but the wedding is only for people they already know and care about."

I place the blame on The Wedding Industry. These vendors have fostered a belief that a wedding is alike a disco -- all welcome, bring a date! Some people today have been so brainwashed by TWI propaganda as to sincerely believe that it is rude to NOT allow your guests to bring guests of their own (people the host doesn't even know!), that is to treat a casual date or a buddy (or even some stranger they just met) to a champagne supper AT THE HOST'S EXPENSE!

Nothing could be further from the truth. The only MUST invites are couples -- married, engaged, living together, long term committed whatever. Don't get cute here because you know darn well who is a couple who is just casually dating. You'd that where a champagne supper is involved it would be a no-brainer to NOT use that insulting "&guest" or "&family" wording on invitations, but go figure.

Well, I drifted into a rant, LOL. I suggest that you do RSVP by phone and if ppl don't call you promptly, then you call them. If you can't, then invent some other excuse to call. Brides/hosts need not make & take all these calls personally; they can delegate friends, family, attendants etc to do it for them.  

Answer 2

Don't try to be nice, be cheeky.

Say something funny but make it clear males are not welcome.

Answer 3

let the girls tel them

Answer 4

You address the invtation to "Ms. Beatrice Finkelstein" for example, and in the invitation you mention that this is a "Girls ONLY" party.  You can be very cutsy in the invitation and say things like, "Us chicks are having an all girls hen party, and would like you to come.  No boys allowed.  Come join us sister hens for a night of fun and frolick with the girls.  

Answer 5

Girls Only!

No Boys Allowed!

Girls Night Out

Leave the men and children at home, it's a girl's only party!

Leave the testosterone at the door, it's an estrogen fest!

Something cheeky should do it.  

Answer 6

Just like you stated....

or

This Female Special Gathering is only for the specified invitee.

Please NO Children, don't ask, no child admittance.

Please NO Male Gender, again don't ask, no males admitted

Again this is a Special Gathering only for the Gals as invited.

Please no added guests under any circumstances.

Thank you so much for understanding.

All will be made clear upon your arrival.



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