Involved with a married man, NEED Advice?

Question

I met a man at work and soon after found out he was married with 4 kids, We flirted back anc forth for a bit then one weekend his wife and 2 kids went camping, he kept 2 at home and invited me over. from that night on we have been being intimate with each other. I sometimes feel guilty but my feelings for him wont let me stop. any advice on how to stay in this situation or should i just try and leave

Answer 1

Get out He is married with 4 kids  

Answer 2

dear,

    the question is asked not only by u but also by many other people. my suggestion to this is the world is filled with men and women who are unmarried and let us choose from them instead of choosing them from married list. because the person who is already married has a family and children.if u proceed an affair with this one it will create confusion and chaos in his family, which is not a good one. choose the one who is alone and having no family.

Answer 3

I say leave. That is unfair to you and her. Mostly the kids.

From the few details you give it seems as if you would

never be able to trust him because as easily as he cheats

on his wife with you, he can do it with other women.  Just

leave him and tell him to remember he has 4 kids.

Find someone who is free and worthy of your time.

Not someone who is already tied down.  

Answer 4

Ummm leave!?!? He is obviously not honorable if he cheats on his wife.

Answer 5

Leave it. He's married. Run away. You shouldnt even have gotten involved with him at all.

Answer 6

End it.  Nothing good will come of it.  Even if you really fall for him and him for you, he is already married and has a family with someone else.  You will end up being really hurt - and you'd never really trust him even if you did end up together.  How could you, you know the excuses he makes to be with you?  You'd always wonder if there was someone else.  Please, for your own sake and sanity, just end it.  

Answer 7

i guess married man do have the charisma to attract women cos i had met a case or two.

ask yourself , how would u feel if u are his wife? do u think u can tolerate your husband having an external affairs while u r taking care of his four children and family? do u feel happy if someone toring apart your family?

And actually u have the guts to come over to the his house and 'have fun' while there are 2 kids arounds! *CLAP CLAP Salute!

there's place called HOTELS unless you two can't afford it..

If u think feeling toward him is bigger than your conscience and your gulit,then u no need any advices.u r adult u should know what can be done and what shouldnt be done.

If u really want advices, simple, please stop it now.

Answer 8

Do you really want to be the OTHER woman? Don't break up the family... it's only okay if he's divorced....... and you don't want to be the reason for a marriage to break up. just leave.

Answer 9

try to leave this is a dead end. and obviously this guy has no morals

Answer 10

The answer is obvious! Stay away from him, okay? Otherwise, his family will think wrong of you and you'll just ruin his marriage. There are lots of other guys out there. It's a good thing that you're thinking about it. Obviously, HE isn't. So this is your chance to escape from doing the biggest mistake of your life.

Answer 11

If you are looking for something serious with this guy, i hate to break it to you but he's not gonna do that.  No matter what he promises you, or suckers you into believing....he won't do it.  Do both yourselves a favor, save all the drama and just leave it alone.  

Answer 12

Honestly I'd say to back off, what ever is going on between him and his wife needs to be resolved.  Don't be the one to destroy their family!  Besides whats to say he wouldn't do the same to you.  Right now as it is he's cheating on his wife, whether or not their marriage is going well or not he's still cheating, but I'm thinking its not going so well otherwise he wouldn't be cheating with you or any other lady.  There's all kind of possibilities, in a way you're saying its okay for a married man to cheat, which, should that ever happen to you, you can't say much yourself as you're sleeping with a married woman's husband.  Whether he messed things up or she did, you're still contributing & if he's the one who messed up think of what its going to be like when she finds out?  You're not only hurting her but you're hurting their children asn well.  Even if they were on the verge of separating, he should have completed this divorce first before ever getting involved with another person, why add more fuel to the fire.  A person should never bring someone else around especially when there are children involved, it may confuse them; at least until things progress and become more serious in a year or so.  To a boy it may be an outlook on how to treat women, that its okay to be with other women while you're married.  They may feel they have to choose between their motehr and father, this could seriously damage these kids mentally.  Bottom line is he cheated, he's got a family & it seems as though his happiness is more important than that of his family.  And yes everyone knows marriages don't always work out, but still he should have went through the whole separation process first whether it was his fault of hers before getting with someone else.  There's other men out there, don't get into it any deeper you really have no idea what's going on in his marriage other than what he's telling you & there's always three sides to a story, his side, her side and the truth.

Answer 13

not good! this is my opinion but you should not be involved with a married man! Think about his wife. Think about the pain it would cause. Think about their kids. Would you like someone to be doing things with your husband? I'd say get OUT of it and leave married guys alone.  

Answer 14

just try and leave.

don't break their family up.

and, he isn't really a good man.

a good man wouldn't cheat on his wife.

Answer 15

To be perfectly honest, if he is cheating on her, what makes you think he would do the same to you?