Is 16 Too Young To Get Engaged ?

Question

basically... im 15 my boyfriend is 16, we have known each other since we were little, and we've been together for about half a year but were both really serious about our relationship and want it to go somewhere.. is sixteen too young to get engaged ? even if we were to get married at 18/19 ??

Answer 1

You still are little!!!!

You need to wait till you are older. You are not the same person(s) you will be at 18, 24, or 30. You may think you are ready for a commitment but I promise you will see it differently 5 years down the road. Be patient and take it on day at a time. If you still feel the same in 3 or 4 years time then great but just wait.

Answer 2

If you've only been together half a year then probably but good luck to ya! theres plenty of time for that though i dont know why everyone feels the need to rush everything! =)

Answer 3

definitely too young,you shouldn't commit to something as serious as this,you never know what is round the corner give it a few years,you will know when the time is right.

Answer 4

id say yes,there's no rush,give a couple more years,if you both feel te same as u do now,then go for it,

Answer 5

eh to me its way way way to young. I'm really mature for my age (almost 16) but the thought of marriage or even engagement at this age scares me. SO Yes I think its too young but if its your religion to get married or engaged that young then go for it.

Answer 6

No if your truely in love but don't get married for a few years yet, good luck

Answer 7

far too young, learn to live first

Answer 8

People change a lot between 15 and 25 years old. You change places you live, careers, schools, attitudes towards life, sometimes even religions. Those ages are all about finding yourself. You don't want to be stuck in a marriage with some guy while you are making all these changes. Why do you think most people dont get married until after 25? It's because by 25, most people know what they want out of life and find someone that wants the same things.

Do what you want, but you two will most likely grow apart when you discover different things and parts of life. Good luck!

Answer 9

Yes it is.You never know what the future holds so dont rush into anything.Wait until you are 18 years old,and,if you are still together and still feel the same about each other,then by all means go for it.But please don;t get married young or you may become another divorce statistic.Wait till you're at least 22 or 23 xx

Answer 10

i believe it's a lot, you're only... going into grade 11, i assume? if you love each other, wait until you graduate. it will be more special and less controversial (controversial in a bad way).

Answer 11

yes its a bit young but end of day is up to u, me n my bf r 21 been together since we were 15 and now starting todiscuss gettin married etc, so id wait a bit longer and live with someone b4 so u know it will work

good luck

x

Answer 12

*Yes* Why hurry to get married? You have the rest of your life to be with the same person. Just date the person and forget marriage. You still have high school and college. Just date the person and enjoy life without the stress of marriage!  

Answer 13

It's your decision. Where I live it is legal to get engaged and married (with parental consent) at the age of 16, but I would wait a little. After all you still have the rest of your life.

Maybe you could save up for a weekend trip together if you want your relationship to go a step further. I know it's a bit different from getting engaged.

I know two people who were going to get married the moment they got out of college. One broke it off just before they did. The other still wit him, married (a year). If you really believe this is the right step forward, then do it. And good luck.

Hope I helped.

Answer 14

is 16 too young to get engaged?

YES!  

Answer 15

Yeah, it really is..

Answer 16

Why not wait to get engaged at 18/19?

Answer 17

How fantastic it is to be young and in love.  God, I know that feeling.  It's great when you get those butterflies in your stomach, hot surges running through your body--thinking about getting married, what you'll name your kids, and growing old together.

With that said, I think you should reconsider.

Marriage is an extremely serious vow not to be taken lightly. It's more than just setting up shop and playing house. There are some things you just can't handle at 16 (or 18, or 19)--physically, mentally, emotionally, and financially (!!). While I can completely relate to being in love and wanting to plan the rest of your life with a person, it's way more complicated than that. And if you're so in love now, imagine how much MORE in love you'll be 5-6 years from now? It'll make the vows that much more important. You have a big life ahead of you and there's no use in throwing yourself into a marriage. Wait it out, friend.

Answer 18

It sounds like you have already decided who should be best answer, so I thought I would just you know that you have to have your question posted for 4 hours before they let you pick one.  Then you just click the button on the answer you like.

Aside from that, marriages for people that young have worked, but it's not as likely today as it used to be.  My mother got married at 19; my grandmother was 17 and both of their marriages have lasted.  Today, though, people get divorced right and left and there's less of an interest in working things out (from one or both parties).  However, keep in mind that people do have a tendency to go back to their love interests from their high school/teenage years, especially after a high school reunion or years of separation.  I have seen it happen firsthand.

If there are things you want in life such as college, traveling, or working in a certain industry, these things aren't as likely to happen after marriage, and it's not just because people start families.  For some reason, after most people get married, their finances become tighter or they just lose some steam and don't have as much energy.  Not everyone is this way, but I was.

In the end, it's really up to you.  Figure out what your goals are in life and what you need to do to reach them.  You might not think so now, but in 10 or 20 years you might regret thinking you can let those things go.

Answer 19

I can understand that you want a way to show the world your commitment to each other. What about a promise ring?  This is a good way for you  to say to each other that you are committed to the other, but it's not as serious as getting engaged.  And besides, wait to get engaged until he's making some good money and can afford to buy you a nice ring.  If things work out, you'll be wearing it for a long time.

Answer 20

duhh.. are you kidding me

Answer 21

Yes.

wait till you're 18 then get married when you're 19 or 20.

Answer 22

15 and you are already thinking of engagement and marriage?  We must be going back to the dark ages of middle england!!!!

You THINK you have found your knight in shiny armour.   Do you also THINK you know what really comes with it in life?  Stop reading so many rubbish love stories, little girl.  Concentrate more on your school work and what you want to do in university.

Answer 23

It is far to young to make that commitment. A friend of mine was with his girlfriend for 6 years, from age 15 to 21. He was absolutely besotted with her and convinced they were going to be together forever but she dumped him. He was really gutted and while he got over it he's still very apprehensive about relationships now.

What I'm saying (in a roundabout way) is that what you want when you're 16 may not be what you want when you're 20 and it's certainly too young to make a decision that will affect the rest of your life. just enjoy the relationship and if you still feel it's right when you're older that's the right time to get engaged.

If you really love each other it shouldn't matter if you're married or not you'll just be glad to be together.