Is 20 & 18 an okay age to have a baby we have been together awhile & we want to have a baby were responible?

Question

to finish the question. im 20, ill be 21 soon. Hes 18 hes turnin 19. We been together awhile. We want to have a baby. we know were gunna be together for along time. Were moving out together in like 2 weeks I go to school. he has a good full time job and i also work part time. I also think we will have alot of help from both our families. Does this sound like an okay thing to do

Answer 1

I was 20 when I had my daughter, my boyfriend was 24. We both have stable jobs and have our own place and we are expecting # 2. I would wait awhile befroe you get pregnant he is still really young and make sure you guys have everything together first.

Answer 2

I would wait a little while to see how living together goes first, then decide on the next step.

Answer 3

The only way you will know if he will be a good father is to test his commitment level.  If he's not ready to commit to you by marrying you, then he's not ready to commit to a baby - which is a FAR bigger commitment than marriage!!  You can divorce, but you cannot stop the fact of being a parent.  I understand that it can be complicated, but if you're not ready for marriage, then you're not ready for children.

Answer 4

Now this just my opinion, but I think you should wait until you are done with school.  That is a lot to try an juggle with a baby.  I just had my first child four months ago my husband and I both have full-time jobs and its hard to find time to do anything let alone spend as much time as I would like to with the baby.  Plus you would have to time the pregnancy just right so not to interfere with school.  plus finances change then you have the stress of school (studying, homework, etc.), working a part-time job, trying to make ends meet, and a baby.  you guys are still really young, take this time to enjoy each other, finish getting your education cuz God knows it s hard to get a good paying job without one.  and then when you are done with school and have a good job with benefits then go for it.  Plus if you have a baby you can no longer stay on your parents insurance ( if you are on it) or if you don't already have insurance then you need to get some because doctor's appointments are not cheap plus ultrasounds and God-forbid you are high risk or develop diabetes or something then the medical costs go up even higher.  A lot to think about, but I say wait til you are done with school at least.  No sense in piling tons of pressure on yourself and the relationship.  Good Luck!

Answer 5

If it's what you want.

Personally, I would finish college fist, him as well.

Remember, it's 9 months that you carry the baby. You can't go to school later in your pregnancy, and then you need to support the baby and dedicate your time to him/her. If you can handle it. Best of luck with whatever path you two choose, & I hope your relationship well.

Answer 6

you have to be stable before you try to have a baby and only you can decide if youre stable...do you live on your own???...and pay your own bills???...does the guy have a job where hes able to support you and your baby by himself while still paying bills and rent on his salary alone because when you get further along in your pregnacy your not gonna want to work same when the baby comes...can you afford to not work and raise your child???...or can you afford day care??? do you make enough to afford medical insurance for you and the baby (or do you qualify for medicaid???) can you afford dipers and formula???...do you have enough room in your house for a baby??...what about when the baby gets older??....you have to think of things like that (at any age).....and you have to be able to do all of this BY YOURSELFS because even though you may have support from your family its not always gonna be there

Answer 7

No. You need to get out on your own first. I am almost 20 and live on my own and it is no picnic. It is tough. You guys need to get out and on your feet before you add a baby to that equation. I also think it's a good idea to live together first. My boyfriend and I have been together 4 years and our relationship has changed A lot since I moved out and he hasn't even moved in yet. It will change your relationship and you guys need to be steady before you add a child to your family.  

Answer 8

apparently according to the way the doctors are your at the perfect age:)

Answer 9

if you both feel ready for a baby then i beleive you should go for it. me and my partner are 18, live together, and both work, we recently lost twins but are trying again. there is nothing wrong with your age aslong as u both feel redy. good luck xx

Answer 10

To me if its what you want go for it, as long as you know you are the right people for each other, and you can afford and support a baby. Remember they don't come cheap, me and my husband have four boys, i had my first at 18yrs old with my ex and we split up as he was a loser and needed to grow up but at the time i had my head in the clouds. My son is now five and i took care of my responsibilities and he is a happy young boy with 3 happy younger brothers. to me age does not matter well as long as your not still a child yourself, as and 18 year old can be a better mom than a 30 year. So if you both feel its right and both work etc , GO 4 IT.

Answer 11

Sweetie, I'm married, 25 years old, I'm also 28 weeks pregnant. Having a baby requires more then just being responsible, it's a whole other world to consider and I'm still finding things out now that I never knew when I was 20. You still have plenty of time.

Answer 12

Hey if you think your ready go ahead....no one can stop you no matter what the rude comment will be its your choice...however I do feel that maybe you should wait until your married it just feels better knowing someone is going to be there for you (you don't have to thats my opinion) but if you know your going to be together forever then why not get married...just wondering no pressure intended....ne ways do what you think is right....I am 21 going on 22 and TTC my first child its all up to you and your partner good luck!

Answer 13

first you said you are in school... remember it is hard to be in school and have a baby... is he planning on going to school as well?

Are you thinking about getting married? Should you wait and get married first?

Having a baby isn't a picnic...  it is hard I'm expecting my second....

when you are not at school will you be working or a stay-at-home mom?

Can you afford daycare if you are working and going to school? Is there someone who can take care of your baby while you are in school if you can't afford daycare? Does your university have a daycare program?

A baby is not a puppy.... I'm 27 and still can't believe I'm a mother....and I stay at home..... everyday I am still surprised that I have a child and how he has changed my life....

Plus, there are the stresses of pregnancy.... fatigue, some people have a lessened sexual desire that the man doesn't understand, and pregancy and a baby can cause stress in a relationship.... get because people get tired and over worked...

If you've answered these questions already and still want a baby... then noone can say no....

I wish you luck in your decision but maybe try to finish your Bachelors or whatever degree you are seeking first....

Answer 14

Only YOU know if you are ready or not. I would suggest getting married first, of course, but only you know what's best for you. I am 19 and my husband is 22 and we are expecting our first baby on Xmas day. Age doesnt have anything to do with it. We have been married almost 2 years, have saved a lot of money, have a big house, cars, and full time jobs. Not to mention, we love each other more than anything in the world and have wanted babies for as long as we can remember. If you both believe you are ready and it feels right... go for it. But think LONG and HARD about your choices. This is for LIFE. You can't take it back. Good luck!

Answer 15

well personally no one is actually ready as they think they are for a child.. just do it and see what happens.. I'm 21 be 22 when i have this lil girl of mine which I'm due in jan and i thought i was ready all the way up to i seen a BFP on the test and now I'm like omg.. lol. but yuh just let nature take its course and good luck