Is 50 too old to adopt a child 6 months - 1 year internationally?

Question

she is 49 and her husband is 50 they are very healthy and already gave birth to a 13, 11, and 8 year old kids and don't hae any illness in the family and want to help a child out as they would love another one but don't want to adopt because they think they might get too attached.

Answer 1

YES

Answer 2

From my personal story, I honestly feel like 50 is too old to adopt a baby. That said, I really do feel that I would never want to tell someone they can't have a baby if they want one. I know the pain of wanting a child. But, you did ask the question. I am no the legal guardian for a child who is 12 years old and was adopted from Russia when she was a baby by a woman who was 50 years old and single. All was well for several years but, about 4 years ago it became clear that the woman was neglecting the child (about 7 years old at the time) due to medical conditions beyong her control. She has been declared medically incapable of taking care of the child and my husband and I now have permanent custody. I feel that due to the woman's age (and the fact that there was no father) the child now has to go through adjusting to a new family, and this should have been prevented. Certainly younger mothers can also get ill but, I think there are reasons why it is more likely to become an issue when a woman is over 50 years old and adopts a baby.

Answer 3

It should be.

That time has past for you, accept it and move on.

Answer 4

For a single parent, yes.  Many agencies cut off age is 40.

Answer 5

umm u think? yes.

Answer 6

Yes, unless you are very wealthy or a celebrity. Are there exceptions? Possibly.

Answer 7

Of course not!  As an adoptee I can say that nothing would have made me happier than graduating high school and getting ready to embark on my own life with the onus of aging, retired parents who needed my financial and emotional help in order to live hanging over my head.

Selfish much?  

50 is not too old to get a hobby, find a cause, or start your life over again.  It is certainly too old to raise an infant.

Answer 8

if your healthy enough to take care of the child and you're gonna be able to bring the child up then yea its fine but you should make sure you're completely healthy enough to care for it!

GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 9

it depends on the country. Most international adoption regulations though limit parents over a certain age to being allowed older children only and not infants.  Some won't even look twice at your application if your over a certain age.  Ask yourself this, if you're 50 now and that child eventually turns 13 you'll be getting ready to retire.  Put yourself in the teenager to be's shoes and ask yourself what kind of life that is for a child?  Especially if you should develop critical health concerns and end up in a home before they are an independent adult.  At 50 I don't think you need to be considering adoption at all. Children need parents that can keep up with them and provide them a childhood, not a nursing home.

Answer 10

My dad was 50 when he adopted me back in the 50's however it was not an international adoption, and believe you me, my parents were not wealthy.

Answer 11

Look it up in the department of state website.  Different countries have different rules.  

http://travel.state.gov/family/adoption/...

Answer 12

I don't think so. As long as you are good with kids and have alot of love to give you are fine. It is good to not be so set in your ways though. Generation gaps can be a problem in some families. My wife parents were a lot older than her and they had nothing in common. Me and my mother were closer in age. We liked the same music and other fun stuff. We were like best friends. I think you can get along a lot better if the parents are willing to adapt in ways to what is cool to children. Still got to be a parent though, it was nice to have a very cool and adapting mother.

Answer 13

Too old, yes gramps

Answer 14

I certainly hope so.

Answer 15

There are really two questions here: can you adopt an infant? and, should you adopt an infant?

Can you? -

Some countries, Liberia for example, are okay with it.

For most other countries, you are eligible to adopt an older child [probably 7 or older] but not younger. Look at your country's embassy web page in a number of countries and see what guidance they give to you.

I was 57 and adopted a 13-year old from Colombia. Age was never an issue.

Should you adopt an infant?

An acquaintance, age 62 at the time, got his 36 year old girlfriend pregnant and he went through the diapering and teething just fine. The child is now 12 and everyone seems to be doing quite well, so it certainly is possible.

It is up to you. You need to think in terms of parenting this child for 18 years or so, maybe longer.

Good luck to you