Is 6 weeks the least amount a time you can wait before having s*x after giving birth?

Question

its been about 3 weeks since i gave birth. I feel like my episeotomy has healed and i dont see much bleeding anymore... I was told to wait at least 6 weeks but i feel fine "down there". What should I do?

Answer 1

do you really need another child?

Answer 2

You should probably listen to your doctor, but it is your life. So if your ready, what's stopping you?

Answer 3

wait til 6 weeks or at least contact your doctor on the phone and ask him.

Answer 4

i think you should go to your docter, talk to her/him about it and wait for a answer.

Answer 5

Well, visible bleeding and internal bleeding are two different things... and while six weeks usually involves two precautionary weeks or so, I would say to wait an additional week after everything is healed up. A month total is usually a fair rule of thumb, so maybe you could wait one more week to be sure. You never want permanent damage. That is worse than missing a week or two.

Answer 6

just do it (: - nike

heheh

Answer 7

With my last (he's 6 months) it was a little over a week. I was fine. If you feel okay I think it is totally fine. I was still bleeding a little but not much.

Answer 8

You can try but make sure your partner knows that if it hurts He stops period!

Take it really really slow. You may even need some lubricant this time because first thing your body is going to want to do is tighten the muscles down there.

I didnt wait the 6 weeks but I didnt have an episiotomy either  so just be careful.

Answer 9

It's probably still like throwing a sausage down a hallway till you undiolate

Answer 10

don't do it. i thought i was fine because i stopped bleeding aorund 3 weeks after i gave birth and after/during s*x i started bleeding alot and was bleeding the next day. i didn't go to the doctor so i don;t know why i wAs bleeding but if i were u i would just wait.

Answer 11

Go ahead and have fun if you are ready...... just make sure to use extra protection these 6 weeks you are very fertile.....I got pregnant within my first 6 weeks...my 2nd son came early so my boys 9 months and 6 days apart....and grown men I love them too death.....my son was 3 weeks premature so we waited 3-4 weeks cannot remember....so by all means use a condom and another form of birth control like a foam or diaphragm.

Answer 12

I did it after 3 1/2 weeks with my first child. If you feel healed then you can try it, but test it out slowly first. But if you get torn or something bad happens you will only have yourself to blame.

Answer 13

The doctors always recommend waiting; if you are not fully healed, you could risk tearing which could lead to infection or build up of scar tissue.  

If you can't wait, get creative without penetration!  

Answer 14

You should always wait at least 6 weeks and then get the permission of your obgyn or midwife because your cervix might not be healed and you could get an infection!  Better safe then sorry, right?

Answer 15

would you really want to do it any sooner??  you just had your crotch ripped open!  (or in some cases, your stomach)

Answer 16

Wait 6 weeks! even though your not sore anymore you may not be all the way healed, plus I dont know know about you but with my 1st baby i waited 3 months and it still hurt like i was a virgin again.

Answer 17

wait at least 1 more weak kk just to make shore  

Answer 18

I would suggest to meet with your MD for the 6 week follow up appointment first. In reference to my experience, six weeks after I gave birth to my son, my sutures were still intact. I had to wait another three weeks. Now if your MD sees everythings okay, proceed.  

Answer 19

Everyone’s experiences make them an expert in their own right - so what is right for one couple may not be appropriate for another. Most couples wait for the magical 6 week mark  and are dreadfully disappointed when that incredible pre birth s*x doesn’t happen.  

Some women find their stitches painful and slow to heal, and others experience much less discomfort. It depends on your physical health. Stitches should heal by three to four weeks after the birth; if they haven't, or you still feel uncomfortable, seek help from your doctor or health professional.  You have said that you feel fine.. so thats GREAT!!

The physical facts are that within six weeks of birthing, your uterus should be back to its pre-pregnancy weight and size. Breastfeeding assists in stimulating the hormones released around this function.   This is the reason that you are meant to have a six week check up and then are medically are ‘fit’ to commence intimate relations.  Ignored and unaddressed are the emotional and psychological changes that have occurred.

I have had 2 children, birthing them naturally, so cannot comment on C sections - but I believe the emotional rollercoaster is similar. With the first one, I was so devastated, shocked and horrified at my experience and unprepared for the hormonal and bodily changes, that I was really uninterested for months afterwards - even though I did have s*x at  that 6 week mark - to please my husband. However, with the birth of my daughter, I was in a much better space, prepared and ready and was ready to go within a week.

It all depends I guess, on your birth experience and the damage ( physically and mentally) that you have endured and the meanings you place upon those experiences in relation to  s*x. My advice is to keep an open and honest communication link with your partner and take things slowly – with little pressure – and connect again with yourself as a sensual being, before attempting to touch another.

  

Answer 20

My doctor told me to wait at least 4 weeks because I had a episeotomy and wanted the sticthes to heel.  You may feel fine but your stitches take 4 weeks to go away, and you have a good chance of tearing.  Plus s*x after a baby is not fun.  It hurts the first few times.

Answer 21

Hi why the hurry?

I hope ur partner is not putting pressure on u huh?

It's best to wait up to 6 weeks for obvious reasons not to mention the chances of pregnancy again is extreme without protection be told girl from someone who knows OK LOL ♥

Answer 22

well to not risk complications id say wait the full 6 weeks Maybe 5? but 3s only half the recomended so i don't think thatd be good maybe go to the doctor?