Is 7 bridesmaids (including junior bridesmaid) too many?

Question

2 future sister in laws, 2 best friends, 2 good friends, and junior bridesmaid is my little cousin......all wonderful and cooperative people. I doubt i'll have 350 guests but i don't want to leave any of these girls out!

Answer 1

No thats not too many remember this is your special day that you waited your whole life for.

Answer 2

Check with your wedding venue.  My Sister In Law wanted like 10 of us, but her caterer said no.  He claimed that it would take too long for the wedding.  

  I was thrilled to be there, but frankly releived not to be in the wedding party.

Answer 3

Yes, very much so.  

Its going to be a NIGHTMARE but cheers have fun with that headache. i think anyone more than you,me,and the elvis priest is too much!

Answer 4

No, just remember it's your day, so your way. Congratulations

Answer 5

at first I say yes too many...but then I remember that I have 4 plus 4 honorary bridesmaids (nieces over 10) and a flower girl so if you can fit them all into your venue and have as many guys to participate I say go for it! the only consideration is with that many attendants maby you should consider a sweetheart table instead of a head table for comfort and ease. if you haven't asked them you may also think about if they are all in the wedding who is going to hand out programs and birdseed and roll out your runner etc?

Answer 6

Nope. i am getting married in september. i have 9 bridesmaids and a flower girl. i havent had many issues at all. found a dress all 9 LOVE and everyone has taken their responsibilities well.. Some communication problems with the maid of honor but everyone comes together in the end. i had a beautiful shower on sunday and next weekend is my bach party. they all pulled through and everythign so far has been flawless.

But, there are alot of different personalities. i really didnt take all 9 of their opinions or yapping.. lol.. i only assigned maybe 2 per project. and would alternate taking bridesmaids wtih me when i went to prepare things for the wedding so no one felt left out.

Good luck!

Answer 7

According to sites like theknot.com, of course and like common sense dictates, you can have as few or many as you want- I mean, you need two witnesses at the very least.

How decadent above that is up to you, but wedding experts on sites like theknot.com say that there is also a rule of thumb of a groomsman and bridesmaid for every 50 guests, and traditionally a large wedding party means a more formal wedding. So that I guess is sort of your gage. How formal are you going? How many guests are you inviting? According to the knot.com, a small intimate wedding with 10 attendants would be a bit much.

The other issue: the more attendants you have the more complicated things get: more people to come to an agreement on dresses, shower date choices. Since your attendants are in charge of planning parties, maybe if you have that many, you want to delegate who is in charge of what? So you don't have 7 people arguing over where to have a shower, or bachelor party, or theme or whatever else. A site like theknot.com has lists of what typical attendant duties are so you can get help deciding who is going to be in charge of what.

And then finally the more attendants, the larger the cost. Granted, traditionally attendants are in charge of their own dresses etc unless you have something really unique in mind where they wouldn't otherwise wear those dresses again etc, the wedding couple has to get bouquets for all of them, as well as attendant gifts. That adds up. Maybe money is not an issue for you, but I thought I'd throw that in there anyway because they are all things to consider.

Good luck and congrats!

Answer 8

I personally think anything more than 3 is too many.  And that is without a junior bridemaid as well.  Think of it. How well do you think all those folks (bridesmaids, grooms, couple, parents) are going to fit in those photos?

Answer 9

I've been to weddings like that, so it's not exactly unheard of.

It's ultimately *your* wedding, so that's fine if you feel like you have 7 friends/family that mean enough to you to have them as bridesmaids over the rest of the people you're friends with.  If you think that'll work without hurting too many feelings and such, then I'd go for it.

Answer 10

I dont think so! I have the same exact number. My future sister in law, 5 best friends and my little sister as a junior bridesmaid. We are having around 200 or so people in attendance. I wouldn't have it any other way :)

Answer 11

Not if you have a good wedding planner or are yourself authoritative enough to keep everyone in line (so to speak).

Answer 12

I don't know where all these people get all these "wedding rules"!!! It shouldn't matter bridesmaids per guests, it's not like the bridesmaids all have to look after a certain number of guests or something... If you have seven girls that are close enough to stand up there and support you and help you on your big day for for it! same if you had only 2 or 15, It's your wedding, if you want seven girls standing up there supporting you then go for it! No one is going to look down on you or something for the size of your birdal party! Do whatever makes you adn your soon to be hubby happy! If you didn't want any that should be just as fine as if you wanted 10 it's your wedding, make it what you want! Good luck!

Then don't leave any of them out! The obv. all mean something to you, I really think you should all have them standing up there, you don't want to regret not asking someone and then still having them help etc, but not gettign to be in the wedding. They all mean something to you and i am sure even if there are a few tiffs here and there it will work out! I am sure they will all be elated to be in the wedding!

Answer 13

my sister had that in her wedding it was nice

but too many people can be a nightmare

Answer 14

I have 8...3 sisters, 2 best friends and 3 close friends that i made during my college years to 3 years ago. Its a lot of girls to get a hold of and they live 3 different area codes and 2 hours away...I love my girls, but they are stressing me out, a lot of them and one of me...and many different opinions left to right and they cant agree on anything...I think 4 to 5 is plenty...I would do only sisters if i had to reask...but you can get lucky and could have more cooperative group.

Answer 15

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Answer 16

Yes.  Are you honestly that close with everyone or having everyone cause someone will be hurt to be left out?

Answer 17

no thats fine..you want the people who are closest to you and who you want to be standing with you on your big day..there is never too many as long as your with the ones you love. If it makes you happy then go ahead..and plus your wedding pictures will turn out nice also

Answer 18

no it's not too many..a friend of mine from work had 12 on each side!

I had six on each side, not including my jr bridesmaid, flower girl and ring bearer, we had a huge wedding party

the only thing is if you buy gifts to thank them for being in your wedding it could get a little pricey

Answer 19

Im having 8 bridesmaids + 2 junior bridesmaids + a flower girl.  If you want that many, its fine.  Its YOUR wedding.  Who cares what others say.

Answer 20

You are suppose to have 1 bridesmaids per 50 people that is invited to your wedding but they say not to have more then 4-5 bridesmaids. So if you have 7 bridesmaid that means you have invited about 350 people. That's going to be a huge wedding.

Answer 21

In my opinion, yes, that sounds like a nightmare, but it's your decision.  Is each one a super-close friend and absolutely necessary?  Or are there 1 or 2 that could help at the wedding in other ways?

Answer 22

Not at all!! I'm having 7 maids too and a junior bridesmaids also!!! My fiance has 7 groomsmen and we have 2 page boys. Don't worry, it's your day. The only way that would be too many is if you only have like 30 guests coming to the wedding. Good luck and congratulations!!!