Is A Refusal Of Praise Just A Secret Desire To Be Praised Twice..??

Question

Is A Refusal Of Praise Just A Secret Desire To Be Praised Twice..??

Answer 1

It is possible... denial would egg the person on to reiterate.... a clever way of remaining on the pleasant topic in a conversation.

To me, however, a praise sounds like a burden, a responsibility to maintain and improve on the earned esteem. At the same time, I also find it difficult to praise anyone face to face openly..... and I find it easier to praise what has been said or done in an impersonal manner rather than praise the person.

Answer 2

I accept praise only if I am totally sure of it.

Answer 3

One of the hardest things for me to do is accept praise from those around me. I definitely know it isn't because I want to hear it again.

For me, I'd rather have joy and share in a group, rather than being singled out.

I was taught and learned to be a good teammate from a very early age.

It's just the way I'm wired.

Answer 4

It can be a "Yes" or a "No".

I will say "No" if I am a person who has a "defense mechanism", defined in Psychology as any of various usually unconscious mental processes, including denial, projection, rationalization, and repression, that protect the ego from shame, anxiety, conflict, loss of self-esteem, or other unacceptable feelings or thoughts.

I will say "Yes" if I know something about the term "defense mechanism".

Answer 5

Not necessarily!

Sometimes praise genuinely embarrasses the recipient.  Though most people are still little children and praise is a good morale-booster,  but I still believe if it is not deserved it should be refused/declined...politely but firmly.

Answer 6

It could be dislike of praise as well.

Answer 7

Maybe some people, do such.

I , personally, believe that by accepting the praise is more normal and sincere.  It even gives joy to the person who praises us. This, adds to the general picture of us!

Answer 8

More often then not yes.

Answer 9

Whoa...fascinating question, you !  I think you have something there.  I guess it would seem that jealousy may play a part in not offering praise when due. It could very well be a desire to save up the praises for oneself.  

Answer 10

lol

shhhh...it's a secret desire.

I suspect at least SOME humility is sincere.

There's a great scene in Hitchhikers Guide -

Arthur, who has been suffered enormous condescension for being a 'dumb' human,  actually saves the day.

Zaphod, the president of the Universe says "Good thinking Earthman"

Arthur replies "It was nothing"

Zaphod answers "Yeah, your probably right"

Answer 11

some thing tha t was as usual in life it doesnt matter when u r cool

Answer 12

it is possible, but I'm incapable of such a level of hypocrisy. however, when I read your question I can see in my mind's eye their faked smiles, their theatrical shyness, their hands making gestures telling you to stop while in the same time they invite you to continue. It's almost sad...

I'm not good at taking compliments and at accepting to be praised, it makes me feel terribly uncomfortable... it makes me feel like I should return the "gift" in order to restore an order which was deranged. But when I say... "please don't say that", I really mean it...

Answer 13

Yes!!! I'm irish and it's a really irish thing to do to refuse something only to be told or offered it again.  

Answer 14

depends on the person. some people really are just modest.