Is It Considered Cheating?

Question

ok so here's the story...

My friend and I both have boyfriends, we have been going out with them for a long time, and we're in love, and our boyfriends love us back. so anywho, me and my friend were on msn talking, and her boyfriend comes online, and he ignores her, and she wasnt talking much because he was ignoring her, so i chatted him, and said, talk to your gf, you meany, then he says, "I want to see if you're like steph(my friend's name), are you shy?", then he clicks on my webcam icon, and asks to see if i am shy like her, and i declined it and told my friend, and she got really mad, and started yelling at him. and my bf is really protective and would get mad at her bf, and she told me not to tell him, so now she's freaking out, and she wants to know if it is considered any form of cheating, and any advise would help to, ty

Answer 1

Yeah, that's cheating.

Where's the difference between him asking online or in person? He was trying to get you (not his gf) to show fun body parts. If you, she and he happened to be at the mall and he wanted a flash of your b***s, that'd be pretty clear, eh?

Furthermore, that's a halfway slick line. Lol, for a teenage douche. It's thought out and his easy presentation of it sounds practiced. None of it sounds like he was getting clever thoughts about how to proceed as you talked. You can count on it that he's run it on your gf. In fact, part of her freaking out about it is because he almost certainly has run it on her, but a bit more of it is she almost certainly did just what he was trying for. Now, being cheated on is humiliating enough, and when a boy or girl cheats on you with a friend, it's worse. But... add to it that you were giddy and "feelin' it" when he ran that line on you and when it's out of context and run on your friend, it all changes instantly to shame that you could have been so gullible:  that's what this douche just did to her.

So tell your bf anyway, or it will be between you and him. Some random guy hitting on you wouldn't be, but you guys obviously have been a foursome plenty so he needs to know. If he smashes the pig's mouth, so be it. Your friend is feeling unclean and shamed right now, and mortified, but she will get over it. You and your bf need to keep important things known between you.

Yeah, it's cheating. And if the douche says it "was only online" I can tell you for a God-believes-it-too fact, he'd've gone after you the next time he could get you alone if you'd shown him anything.

Now, don't take offense at the next bit, it's not something you have to be "poisoned by" but you ought to consider it. Is there any chance your bf was with him at the time and they, not he, were doing it? You know, like testing you? Just... give it a thought or two. But if you discard it, discard it for good, don't keep coming back to it. Either way, you have to tell your bf about it all.

Oh, I said it's pretty advanced for a teenager and laughed at the thought of this being pretty advanced. The sorry thing is, you're gonna hear this or cr*p close to it from guys, especially in bars, for the next 30 years. You'll hear better too, lots. But you won't be past this level of "suave" for a long while. Lol, enjoy the ride.

Added:

Good God. Attempting to cheat IS cheating. Period. You try, we die. (So to speak.) Flirting when it's something of the person's basic nature, so that flirty comments and banter are just an outgrowth is even disconcerting until a person has time and experience with someone and can grow comfortable. This was an actual, no kidding or misunderstanding, attempt to get you doing things only his gf should be doing with him. Period. He's a pig, a douche, and surely making his parents proud. He's a scumbag. Your friend is VERY well rid of him. (Sigh) If she does dump him. Talk about uncomfortable... next trip to hang at the mall will really be fun, huh?

And it will feel that way because either:

a) The scummy douchewad was cheating, or

b) 'Cause nothin' unusual or noteworthy happened.

Pick one that fits being REALLY uncomfortable the next twelve times you're around him.

Answer 2

I wowuld consider that cheating because if he said it in that way he wanted you to take off your clothes and give him a litle action i would be so pissed i deffend her all the way and i wouldnt tell you're bf because if they are friends then it may cause a lot of problems with making the situation better

Answer 3

lol no. how would that be considered cheating in any way? that was hardly even flirting!

Answer 4

Wow, that's definitely not cheating, but it's very...shady. For him to do it to his girl's best friend, probably means more is going on with other girls. Your friend needs to get rid of him. Asap.

Answer 5

what?no?it isnt?

tell ur freind to stop being paranoid.

Answer 6

Heyy love,

Thats not considered cheating,

its more of an attempt to cheat

Tell your boyfriend and maybe he'll knock some sense into your friends boyfriend

she should dump his unloyal ars before he really does cheat on her

Good luck hun!<3

Answer 7

thats not cheating. the guy was kind of flirting.

Answer 8

Its not cheating..because nothing has happend But this guys seems to wanting attention. tell ur friend that she just needs to sit down and talk it out with her bf. it will stop her from getting paranoid. if she aint happen in the relationship then theres something wrong. communication is key.

Answer 9

nope not cheating nothing happened

Answer 10

thats called "being an as*wipe" good for you for not accepting to look at his cam. tell your friend to talk to him about it, and if she really loves him and he really loves her, then it should all work out

Answer 11

That is messed up.

And creepy.

I don't know if that would constitute as cheating.

But your friend should not put up with that.

I think that she should break up with him.

He can't really love her if he is hitting on you.

Answer 12

I don't consider it cheating, but I would consider it an act of douchebaggery for sure.

You handled it well, not accepting the cam, and now it's up to your friend and him to battle it out.

Don't get involved.

Answer 13

hes a dooshbag, he might act like that with other girls too