Is It Fair To Parents Of College Kids?

Question

that they can live away from home while their parents pay for it?

Or

They feel that because theyre in college they dont have to follow parents rules when they are home?

Answer 1

I was fortinite to have my college paid for and my living expenses paid for by my parents/grandparents. But only the basics were covered. If I wanted clothes, go out to eat, etc. I had to earn the money from working. My parents gave me the freedom to do what I wanted while I was away but when I came back home for visits, I had to follow their rules. I didn't mind that since I was lucky enough to have everything covered.

Answer 2

Once they live by their own rules they pay for everything.

Nobody has a "right" to have college paid for them.

No child has a "right" in thier parents home.

As long as a parent set proper rules, and explains them with moral/practical reasons, there should not be a problem.

Answer 3

i and all of my college friends paid for college by ourselves.  we too out loans and worked.  my mom slipped me a few dollars here and there, just as she did at home.  my high school friends had their colleges paid by their parents or grandparents.  so frankly, if you have the money, it's not about fair or unfair.  it's like asking is it fair to send your kid on a vacation by themselves, or is it fair to pay for a wedding and not be able to have any say in decorations and stuff.  a gift is a gift, and it you have it to give why not?  there are pros and cons to paying your way through college and not.

Answer 4

My niece is 19 & goes to an out of state college.She is home now for the summer & she gets home at a decent hour at night,if she gets home a little late(2,3,or even 4 in the morning) she will call her parents.I think it's the child's responsibilty to know when to call & not take advantage of her parents.

Answer 5

We won't be able to afford to put our kids through college, so it doesn't matter, anyway! Not that I wouldn't want to, but we're not rich, and the costs just keep rising... I'm afraid that's something they'll have to take on, on their own.

Answer 6

I am 18 years old and headed off to college September 18. I got excellent grades and semi-high test scores, and without the scholarships I recieved for that, I would not be attending college. Tuition for my whole year is $6,386 dollars, and I have to come up with half. My parents feel like I worked hard enough and they can help me. However, if I slack off in college, the money goes away. If a parent is still helping their adult child financially, they get to make the rules. At least thats how it works in my house.

Answer 7

It's a part of growing up for the child... and a chance for the parents to pull themselves away and let the child choose his or her own path. I don't think parents need to pay everything when a kid goes to college. That's what scholarships, loans, grants, etc. are for. And as for following the rules, the parents just have to trust that they instilled proper values in the kids beforehand.

Answer 8

My parents have paid for my two sisters and I to go to college. They want us to be the best we can be and not be stuck with student loans to pay back for years after. My sisters both went to school out of town so they had to leave home, though I still live at home. Both of them did not really have to follow rules when they came home or at school. My parents believed that you are an adult and need to lear, and take responsibility, as long as you keep your grades up.