Is It Rude To Eat a Gift You Brought For a Friend?

Question

My friend was invited over for dinner. She brought some chocolates and candies as a gift to me. After dinner was over, she asked me if she could eat some chocolates and candies, and started scarfing them down. Now, is this rude???

I don't mind sharing the gift she brought, but she ate almost all of it.........

I was raised to bring a gift to a person, but I would NEVER ask to eat or partake of the gift unless the receiver said you could eat it or open up a box of candy. Am I right?

Answer 1

If she had eaten one or two piece that would be OK, but it is rude to eat almost all of it, it would be rude even if it weren't a gift from her, but it being a gift from her makes it worse. She must have been raised by wolves.

Answer 2

That's a rude little piggy there. However you were also a rude host/hostess for not setting out the candies with a pot of coffee to share with your friend.  

Answer 3

Well, at least she was able to resist long enough to get them through the door and dinner.

Answer 4

Being as much of a fiend for chocolate as I am, if I ever buy candy as a gift, I usually get soem for myself on the sly as well.  That way, when the person I gave the candy to opens it, even if I smell it I can resist, knowing I have a whole box at home waiting for me.  Muhahahaha!

*ahem*

Yeah, it was kinda rude and tacky on her part, though I'm not sure you should approach her about it.  If she ever happens to give you a "gift" like that again, just take it to your room until she's gone, saying you'll enjoy them later.  Then, if she asks if she can have some, hand her the whole box and say "If you wanted them for yourself, why did you give them to me in the first place?"

Answer 5

Uhh, it does seem a bit tacky.  I would never do it either.  Usually what happens it that person A brings a gift to person B and then person B puts out the food and offers to everyone there including person A.

If this person is a good friend I would let it just roll off my back though :)

Answer 6

That is a bit rude. Talk to her about it. Tell her that you found that tacky and offensive. I don't know what else to say about that one.  

Answer 7

Personally, that sounds really rude.

I mean, it's still a bit rude to ask to eat some of the gift, but to eat almost all of it? =/ Definitely rude without a doubt.

Answer 8

Yes, that is rude.  If it was brought as a gift for you then she should have waited until you offered some to her, and even then she should only have a couple of pieces.

Answer 9

Yeah -- that was rude.

And yes you are right.

Answer 10

Yes, I agree with you. But you have to look at other perspectives such as, when a person is looking for a gift for another they are told to give the person something that they would like...and maybe she just liked it a little too much and if that was the case she should have bought her own.

Answer 11

She shouldn't have asked.  She should have waited until you, the recipient, offered to share them.  

At most, if she really really wanted some, she could have hinted after dinner that she hopes you enjoy the chocolates, and that would have reminded you to bring them out and offer them around, although you are by no means expected or obligated to do so.

Next time you give her a gift, give her a box of the same chocolates, and remark that you "knew how much she really enjoyed these, and wanted her to have some of her own."  Hopefully she'll get the hint.

Answer 12

yes it is rude, ive always been raised that u dont eat stuff u bring over urself unless its put out to be eaten

Answer 13

Ya, thats kinda rude, you wait for the guest to leave... then chow down!!!

Answer 14

lmao...that is kinda rude. and it's more rude because she knew that you wouldn't say no to her.