Is PMS really a legit excuse to act like a spoile brat?

Question

I've heard many women say it is annoying, but it doesn't make them go insane. But then, I personally know a few that literally go crazy during PMS. B**chy, whiney, ultra naggy, overreacting to little things, ect... Far more than usual. Like a bad child that's never been disciplined.

So, which is it?

Does it vary that much form person to person or is it just an excuse to act like a spoiled brat?

Is there medication for it? I mean to control the bad attitude.

It's really quite ridiculous to act like a spoiled brat for 25% to 50% of the month.

Answer 1

No - it isn't.  In fact, women KNOW when they are experiencing it, and it would be far more mature to let others know in advance, and take responsibility for their actions and moods.  

And if anyone excuses it, they are providing an excellent argument for why women are not suited to specific levels or positions of authority...

Answer 2

You are right, and none of the women in my house get away with bad behavior by blaming it on PMS.  We all have to deal with it as fact of life and maintain respect for other family members.

Yes, symptoms vary from person to person.

And yes, there are medications and herbal remedies for PMS treatment.  

If you think witnessing the behavior change is ridiculous, you should try being on the receiving end of those hormonal fluctuations directly.  It ain't fun.

>Thanks Mrs. :)

Answer 3

Yeah it varies. Because it is hormonal you can't really use logic to explain it. But I think a lot of women (OK some) need some better medication to deal with this problem. We simply cannot accept this behaviour.

Answer 4

Yes, it varies and it is real.  You have to believe us on this one.  It is VERY REAL.

It is usually worse when there are things that are not being dealt with well all month long.  So, if things are especially stressful one month, PMS might be worse.  There are usually underlying reasons for intense moodiness during PMS.  PMS is just usually the time when you can't suppress it any longer.

But, then, from your post, you sound very understanding and supportive, so I am sure that the woman in your life who is suffering with PMS has nothing to worry about.  It sounds like she would have nothing to stress over or suppress.

Answer 5

When it's left unchecked; yes.  Research has been done and each day more is being done, so that women can be more comfortable as well as the men in their lives.  Here's a bit more on it.

http://www.healthline.com/adamcontent/pr...

Answer 6

'Science' (snigger) has shown that PMS is actually men's fault http://www.abc.net.au/health/features/st...

LOL!  Everything is men's fault - no wonder feminists hate us!

Answer 7

No, but i wouldn't know i don't get PHS.

Just  because a girl gets her period , that doesn't mean she can take it out on everyone else.

Answer 8

I find that spoiled brats can always find an excuse for their behavior.  Here's my philosophy:  you can't help how you feel; you can only control how you act on those feelings.  Sure, PMS can be lousy, but the mature thing to do is to try not to give in to it and make everyone around you miserable.  That's not going to make you feel any better, and it's selfish to make others suffer because of your problem.

Answer 9

spoiled brat or just plain MEAN. Why are they mean to me? I didn't do it.

Answer 10

Really you have no idea....do you think we like being moody? NO! We hate it, but it isn't something we can't handle. It just is. I'd say only once or twice a month it is legal(period and ovulation) other than that, you can just hit us up side the head and tell us to stop being a be-yatch.

Answer 11

If you're old enough to have PMS you're old enough to act like an adult. Just because you're experience some discomfort is no reason to act worse than usual. I don't know who these women are but they make the rest of us look bad. Trust me, you would never know when my time of the month is, nor do you need to.

To answer your question, no it is not a legitimate excuse and women who think so are brats.

Answer 12

It does indeed vary from person to person.. and I've found that with me.. it even (slightly) varies from month to month.

I don't think I've ever acted like a spoiled brat.. but I do think I've had months where I was pretty irritable for 2 or 3 days leading up to it...

EDIT: How do you get a thumbs down for saying that PMS varies.. it does.. that's common sense.. I never said I was giving anyone permission to act like a crazy person!

Answer 13

I've known people who have used it as an excuse to be a b**** and others who have been respectful of others during that time.  I would have to say it varies from person to person.  Those who are mean will be even more mean and others who are not will be deal with the reality of it.

Answer 14

PMS symptoms can actually be rather severe and even homocidal, but not really nearly as severe as guys just becoming unhinged and going baboon over a bad call in a football game or whatever.   I'm fascinated by how many guys slug walls.  Sooooo many guys do that and have to go the ER.  (Why do guys slug walls?)  Anyway, did you know that a clinically diagnosed PMS homocide is considered temporary insanity?  That doesn't mean I'm suggesting that women run out there and get that diagnosis and keep that ace up their sleeves or anything like that.

Answer 15

PMS is not an excuse for anything. Women who use it as an excuse are weak.

Answer 16

Most women do not experience PMS regularly. However there is a small percentage of women, between 2 and 5 percent, who experience debilitating mood swings that interfere with their lives. At this point it is not called PMS anymore, it is called PMDD. If this is the case with those women you know, the fact that you have likened them to undisciplined children is very insensitive to a real medical disorder. And yes, there is medicine for it.

Edit: To the three that have thumbed me down thus, this is not my opinion. This is fact. Look it up. Telling a woman who really does suffer from the disorder to "not get hormonal with me" is like telling someone with depression to "stop being such a downer."

Answer 17

It's really easy to say that just because you know what's going on, you should be able to stop yourself from acting that way.  It just doesn't always work that way, sorry, fellas.  A friend of mine suffers from PMDD and is really difficult to be around for about two weeks out of the month.  The worst part, for her, is that she knows it!  

Is it real?  Yes.  Does it vary?  Yes.  Is it an excuse to act like a b*tch?  Only if it's real.

Answer 18

Yes it does vary from person to person, but you have to remember that all the PMS effects are different for every woman. One might be abnormally moody with no cramps, while another has horrible cramps with little mood swings. I've heard lots of different stories from women and how their bodies change during that time.

Is it reall a legit excuse? In my opinion, it's a split decision. But I'm a little more towards no. I know I get moody, but I try and warn people and remember if I don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all. I also know alot of women who say they can't help it. I do agree that it's ridiculous to act like a brat.

Answer 19

My husband, not happy with my mood swings, bought me a mood ring the other day so he would be able to monitor my moods.

When I'm in a good mood it turns green. When I'm in a bad mood, it leaves a big friggen red mark on his forehead.

Maybe next time he will buy me a diamond.

Answer 20

no, that's a terrible excuse and one I hear far too much.

EDIT: Bawsed, what are you even talking about. your comparing PMS to Testosterone so do you think that when men get stubborn that we can use " ohh it's the testosterone." h**l no. We don't say that because that would be stupid much in the same way that women saying "ohh it's the PMS" when they get b***hy.

Answer 21

Let's just say on the pain-o-meter, I've heard people compare it to being even worse than a man constantly being kicked in his nether-regions.....so I'm sure nobody would be happy while that was going on.

By the way, the person who did the comparison WAS A MAN!

Answer 22

Are you sure they are not always like that?

Answer 23

Yes...whats your excuse?

sounds like  you have pms

Answer 24

no not really..

when i have PMS i honestly really do get annoyed more easily..its like sometimes the littlest things really get on my nerves.

also the nipple sensitivity and cramps and sometimes backaches i may get dont make me to happy either.

now there are times when the PMS isnt so bothersome...

but on those days when it is..hoo boy i just wanna crawl in bed and never come out again.

Answer 25

Yes, it varies from person to person and there is medication. If you would stop and think for a second without stereotyping, you would learn to understand and leave them alone.

Answer 26

No it's not an excuse.

Women beat their chests about how painful child birth is and how men can't handle it. So, a little PMS should be a breeze. Either that.. or someones LYING about something.

Either way... I don't have time for PMS attitude. I tell her she is free to act like a brat if she has no problem losing all my respect.

Answer 27

YES!!! What's your excuse?

Answer 28

Not in our house.  My husband has a zero tolerance policy towards temper, petulance etc at that time of the month.  "Don't get hormonal with me" is his usual response, or some other similar comment.  I find this has a very calming effect on me.  A good hard spanking generally helps to suppress the symptoms as well.

Answer 29

No it is not an excuses and yes it does vary from woman to woman, quite a bit actually.  Some have little to no problems, some have severe problems.  I had a friend who would double over in pain, throw up and had migraines...it was horrible.

If a woman's PMS is truly bad enough that she cannot control how she acts or treats others she needs to discuss it with her doctor.  It may be something more than simple PMS...then again, she could just be hateful.

EDIT- ELF

I accidentally thumbs downed you when trying to thumbs up you...sorry.

Answer 30

Some seem to think so.  I don't agree with allow things to get really out of control. I think one can and should take action to better deal with it...especially if you want to get ahead in the workforce.  Even if you're a SAHM, should your husband and kids have to take the brunt of mommy's problem every month?

There is that special prescription pill for women with PMDD, after all...and there are practical ways to control ones PMS:

Medications - including antidepressants, antianxiety drugs, analgesics, hormones and diuretics.

Psychobehavioral - including exercise and psychotherapies (cognitive-behavioral, coping skills training, relaxation).

Nutritional - including diet modification, vitamins, minerals and herbal preparations.

It's funny, though ... ever notice how unequal things are re: the attitudes towards PMS and a woman's perceived rank in society?  For example, if you have a female boss/CEO with PMS the attitude seems to be you're supposed to be all accommodating (maybe even send flowers)...

but if it's a lower level/ rank and file employee, such as an assembly worker, a receptionist or a maid, then they just dismissed as having a "bad attitude" and are told they are 'exaggerating' and need to get over it. No flowers and pampering for them...

also, I've noticed that white middle class women get a LOT more sympathy for PMS than non-white women do.  Why is that?

HUMPH!

Answer 31

yes there are medical reports that back up the stories women tell.