Is She Being Selfish? Or Am I?

Question

Okay... Well My Mom And I Moved To Florida Like 2 Years Ago.

I Didnt Want To Move To Florida Because I Was Happy Where

I Was.

So She Gave Me An Option. Move To Florida With Her.

Or Stay. Of Course I Picked Stay. But She Still Made Me Move With

Her.

Sooo... For The Past 2 Years I've Been Giving Her Signals That

I Want To Leave Florida. That I Hate Florida. But She Just Brush

It Off Because She's Happy. She Dont Give A d**n About My Happiness.

I Really Dont Want To Stay With Her. Or Start Highschool In Florida.

My Sister Offered Several Times For Me To Stay With Her.

But My Mom Still Wont Let Me Go Back.

Now. My Mom Is Getting My Brothers And They Will

Be Staying With Us. And I Try To Persuade Her That She Will Have

My Brothers. She Wouldnt Need Me In The House Anymore With

Her. It Would Be Alot Cheaper If I Leave. Etc.

And Im Always Mad. And Depressed. Because I Got To Be

Somewhere I Really Dont Want To Be.

And It Kills Me Because She Knows How Much

I Dont Like Florida. But She Doesn't Care.

So I Want To Know. Is She Being Selfish? Or Is It Me?

Answer 1

Oh wow I just got some kind of intense headache from trying to read what you wrote.  Dang.

You are being selfish.  And a spoiled brat.  Your mom is looking out for your well-being and you are acting like a spoiled brat.  Did you ever think that your mom might really really need you in her life?  That you might be the glue that is holding her together?  That you might be the one person that truly makes her happy?  It seems that the second your mom said you were moving to Florida you just crossed your arms and decided you were going to hate it.

Hello...so Florida may be hot.  But it is fun.  There are so many positives to living in Florida, and right now with the way the economy and the housing market is, your mom is better off staying put in Florida because chances are she can't afford to move and finding a house is near impossible.

Do you buy your own food?  Do you buy your own clothes?  Do you make your own food, drive yourself everywhere, take care of yourself when you are sick?  Or is your mom there for you?  Chances are she probably is, and this is the way you repay her?  By being a selfish brat and probably holding her back from true happiness with the way you are acting?

Your mom knows that you are probably not happy.  And she's probably tried very very hard to make you realize that Florida is not as bad as you are convinced it is.  And with the way you are acting it is probably hurting her more than it is hurting you.  So that's the way you repay your mom for everything she has done?  She could have left you at the hospital.  Treated you like c**p.  But it seems that she hasn't.  You are one lucky kid to have a mom that cares.

You need to look at this from your mom's perspective first, kid.  And realize how much your mom probably sacrifices day in and day out for you.  And then once you do that, take a big slice of some humble pie and eat it.  And then go out and enjoy Florida.  I will be insanely jealous of the tan that you will have.

Answer 2

tell her u want to move back to _______ and that u dont like it there if she says to call ur relatives and see if u can live with 1of them

Answer 3

You'll understand better when your a parent. I don' t think its right to ask your whole family to move to a different state for a man but your mom deserves to be happy. Im sure she did what she felt was best. I know its unfair especially when the realtionship didnt work out. Your mom is going through alot right now, her man dont want her, shes in a new place trying to figure out how to get her **** together and she has alot more on her plate than you might realize. Dont move your mom needs you. Yall might not realize it now. And you might love florida and your new school if you give it a chance. Life is easy in the eyes of teen. Wait til you grow up thenyou will understand better. Please take my advice. Put yourself in your moms shoes and try and feel what shes feeling. Its probably alot worse for her. You just have to switch schools and make new friends. She has to worry about you and your brothers and finances and having her baby gone will only make things worse for. Atleast give it another 3 months. See how it goes. Try and not fight with your mom shes probaly kicking herself she doesnt need you to leave her too.

Answer 4

Neither of you guys are being selfish. You didn't want to move, and you did try to make it work, but sometimes you find yourself in a place you just don't belong. Like you have your own seperate place for the socks, and your jeans. They don't mix well in the wrong drawer.

On the other hand your mother does love you and doesn't want to see her baby move out. It may be easy for a mother bird to teach the baby bird to begin to fly, but human mother have a harder time. She doesn't want to see you go.

So neither one of you. Though it hard now talk to your sister about moving in with her and ask your sister to talk to your mother about it. And explain that you'd visit your mother. That way you guys both win.

Good luck, best luck!

Answer 5

You are not being selfish! That sounds like my mom, she almost moved out of state for a man.....

Okay, she probably will miss you, so maybe you should just tell her that you will still see her, and that you can comunicate by email, webcam, etc.

:)

Answer 6

You both seem entirely unable to compromise. You and your mum need to learn that you can't just push for your own way all the time. I do think it's unfair though that she told you to pick, and then didn't care about your choice. If she was going to force you, she shouldn't have given you false hope.

Answer 7

Sometimes we all have to do things we don't like.  Your happiness is what you make of it.  You can choose to be happy where you are, or you can choose to be miserable.  Find something to do - a job, a hobby, go make new friends...the choice is yours.  Give your mom a break.

Answer 8

You are being selfish.

If she didn't give a c**p about your happiness she would have left you at the hospital when you were born. Or aborted you. have some frickin gratitude.

BTW, why do you type like that? It's really hard to read.

She is mom. It is her job to keep you with her and provide for you. It is selfish of you to dump her so you can go have more fun, and expect her to be ok with it.

Want to help her, since you're so worried about it being cheaper if you leave? GET A JOB. Give her the money. That would be unselfish of you.

Why is your personal happiness more important than hers? She is the adult here. She has done way more than you. She supports you. When you hit 18, get the h**l out. Until then, leave her alone and stop being selfish.