Is This A Vow Renewal?

Question

My Husband and I got married at the Court House on May 30, 2008. None of our family or friends were able to attend, so it was just me, him, and the judge. Well, now that we have the money for it, we want to have a wedding next year on our anniversary (May 30, 2009) with all our family and friends. But I'm told for a renewal wedding there are no bridesmaids or groomsmen. My father isn't suppose to give me away, and we won't have an Officiant. All of which I wanted or thought I should have. So now I'm confused as to what to do. Is this a "Second Wedding" or a "Vow Renewal"? Should I still have it as planned or go with the Renewal Etiquette?

Answer 1

It is a vow renewal.  That said, I think you should do what you want.  Have all the trimmings if that will make you happy, but don't register for gifts or have a bachelorette party - that would be kind of tacky.  You are already married.

You can have bridesmaids and groomsmen if you want, and have your Dad walk you down the aisle.  Have the flowers, cake, dj, whatever. Just don't register for gifts.

Answer 2

no to both...it's the wedding you wanted to have! do it the way you want...seriously I regret the way I handled my wedding and if I had the money I'd do it all over again. If you have the chance go ahead and exchange vows in front of everyone, you wanted them to see it so do it!

Answer 3

It is a vow renewal.  You are already married.  A second wedding would apply if you had gotten divorced.  Your father cannot "give you away."  You have been married for a year, you are no longer his to give.  You are happily married for a year, that is more important than any celebration or party.   Do not diminish the value of your marriage ceremony by acting as if it wasn't good enough.  Have a vow renewal with your family and friends who missed your wedding.  

Answer 4

Yes, it's a vowel renewal as you are already legally married. You cannot be married twice. I don't see the point of having "another wedding." In your situation I would have either waited a year, or eloped then had a party at a later date to celebrate with friends and family. A "second wedding" is just a waste of money, and rather silly and superfluous when there are other things money would be better off being used for.

Answer 5

its YOUR party. YOU do what YOU want! Dont listen to anyone else, if this is how you want it, do it!

Answer 6

Forget the naysayers! It's not a Renewal, it's a Confirmation, and a formal wedding ceremony. You do it up right!