Is This Grounds for a Restraining Order?

Question

I am very very scared my affair partner nd I broke up on MOnday but got into an argument and I contacted two of his girlfriends - just asking about his experiences with them. He got wind and is upset and threatened to file a restraining order against me - he even went on to create a 'fake' email that said "Pending Restraining Order for MY NAME" - is he trying to just scare me because I fear about my husband and family, etc? He also called me to tell him to stop contacting everyone and said the call was being 'recorded.' Does this seem normal? Is he bluffing?

Answer 1

Better to not risk it if he isn't bluffing.  He could well be recording your calls.  It seems to me this isn't the first time you've acted this way, though, and that could be why he is using this as a way to get you to stop.

The affair is over.  Stay away from him and don't contact his old girlfriends.  You don't need to be in touch with them to compare notes anyway.  Focus on your husband and family and use this as a learning experience.

Good luck.

Answer 2

You should forward that email to the police, it is illegal to pretend to be a representative of the state if you are not.

No, these are not grounds for a restraining order.  But why would you call his ex girlfriends?

You mention your husband and family....WTF, you are married?!?!?!?  What are you thinking???

Karma is a m**o.

Answer 3

play with fire and you get BURNED!

i hope you learnt a valuable lesson,

you should have thought of your family BEFORE you had an affaiR

Answer 4

who knows but that does seem a bit nutty on your part. hummm. your married, broke up w/ your affair, tracking down his other girlfriends......

nice.

Answer 5

You two broke it off. You are married. However, you feel the need to push his buttons by calling old girlfriends??? You should be happy your affair is done. Why throw fuel on the fire by doing what you did?

Just leave it alone and move on.  

Answer 6

stop all contact immediately !! Go to your husband and make amends. He doesn't have to know about your fling as long as you stop dealing with this character. Only if he is threatening to expose it to your husband, do you say anything about it .Better to have heard it from you , then someone else. Make sure you set the mood before you tell him, so he can receive it with you having minimal recourse. Good luk

Answer 7

You are doing to him, exactly what you claim you don't want him to do. You don't want him contacting people in your life but you are contacting people in his life. Keep it up and I am sure instead of calling you, he will be contacting your Hubby.

Answer 8

no.

there are 14 acts under domestic violence law

assault, kidnapping, criminal restraint, false imprisonment, sexual assault, lewdness, stalking, criminal mischief, burglary, harrassment, homicidde, terroristic thrats, criminal trspass, and criminal sexual assult

i'm guessing he's going to try to use harrassment, but you got to REALLY be calling someon a lot, like 30x in an hour, which happens A LOT, in order to get that. or calling their job and harrassing family mmebers.  you call his ex-g/f once or twice is NOT harrassement.

i would stop calling people though. it is what it is. it's over, so leave the relationship alone.

Answer 9

You probably need to just let him go.  A recorded conversation cannot be used in court unless he tells you it's being recorded beforehand.  A court will not likely give him a restraining order but there is such a thing as a no contact order.  I would tell him to remove your name from the e-mail account though.  You could technically file a libel suit against him for that, but I think you're better off just getting rid of the bum.  He sounds like a real loser.  

Answer 10

I don't think so.  Call him and apologize profusely and then just leave him alone..

Answer 11

he's bluffing.