Is This Too Much "Love" For Your Child?

Question

My boyfriend is 19 years old. His mother has been trying to break us up for the past year (((we have been together 2 years)). She will try anything and everything to break us up, the first year she LOVED me, absolutly loved me.. but then all of the sudden she turned and started hating me.

She made her son sleep in her bed untill he was 17 years old, then her other children ((3 year, 13 year, and 16 year)) are all forced to sleep in her bed as well. She doesn't let her children go out and have a social life, and every boyfriend/girlfriend that comes around the children she scares off... She couldn't break me and my boyfriend up so she is making him move with her.

He pays the bills in the house. But at the same time she try's to make him quit his job.

She tries to convince him to cheat on me saying he's too young to be in a serious relationship.

She try's to convince her baby to call my boyfriend "Daddy" when he is the brother.

And everywhere we go she jokes that it's his kid.

Last month, my boyfriend made a big mistake... big mistake and we had gotten into a HUGE fight, we kissed and made up, but his mother said that I'm not allowed to go over to the house anymore because she doesn't want us to get back together. She called me the "devil child" but I'm a good kid. I work 2 jobs, live on my own, While going to school full time.. I've never tried drugs, and i don't drink at all. I take care of her children Monday-Friday for a couple hours each day while she is at work and i drive them everywhere. i also buy them lunch everyday because she can not afford to..

I feel as if she is IN LOVE with my boyfriend (her son), and it goes beyond a son/mother relationship..

Does this sound creepy to anyone else?

Answer 1

mothers will always look out for there sons no matter what...you could be so perfect but yet she will always find a flaw for you

my mother is the best woman on this earth she works hard, cooks for her family a good heart and her mother in law (my grandma) still cant appreciate it....it happens...so just do what you do best, and dont let her come between you so much...or you can try talking to her...see what she says and feels

Answer 2

Yup, it is really weired thing i have ever heard at least in our country. Do talk to your guy clearly if he is ready to leave his mother, if you marry him otherwise the problem may take it worst form and even in front of you. Come on at 17, you can find many guys staring at you, give a red signal if don't agree.

Answer 3

Yes the mother is a problem but so is your boyfriend.He must love u very much to be with u for 2 years so if u and the relationship mean so much to him why dosent he stand up to his mother and tell her that he loves you and your unbreakable so she should stop making life hard for the two of you.But making sure that she dosent feel unloved but knows that your one of his prioritys too.DONT TAKE THIS THE WRONG WAY but u cant say this because your opinion obviously dosent mean much to that women but her son's opinion does so y wont he do it?

As for the other children you should make sure she knows that your not doing this for her or to impress her because you've given up due to the fact that she has no respect for you but your looking after the kids becauuse there the love of your lifes siblings and he would like to see them cared for.

As you say your a good kid so standing up to her will be hard but this women needs to be told and you know it.

OH YH make sure your careful because it looks like this women will go to drastic measures to protect her children

Answer 4

Creepy is an understatement. This woman is sick. I mean that with all sincerity. She needs psychological help. Your boyfriend may also (no disrespect) need counseling. If he is not respectfully correcting his mom when she calls his brother his son, he is condoning her behavior. Is he defending u when she calls u the "devil child?" He should have told her that there is no way his brother will be calling him "Daddy!" How twisted! The cycle of dysfunction needs 2 end now. All of her children will end up messed up if something isn't done.

If nothing is done on the part of your boyfriend, u may need 2 take a break from/get out of this relationship. U sound like a very good person. Uve done a lot 4 her & her children. She should appreciate u. Your boyfriend needs 2 appreciate u enough 2 put an end 2 his mother's disrespect. I wish u the best!  

Answer 5

Wayyyyy creepy!! He needs to move out before it gets further out of control. Maybe I didn't catch it, but where is their father when all this is going on?? Maybe he should contact his father and inform him of what is going on. Sounds like it could be serious enough to have the kids taken away from child protective services. The mother just sounds like a wacko!!  Good luck.

Answer 6

Get in touch with Social Services - it's incestuous. She doesn't want outsiders coming between her and her children. It's not healthy and the sooner this is brought to the attention of the Authorities the better it will be for all everyone - including you, your boyfriend and the other children in the house.

Answer 7

tell the 19 y.o. son to do something about it b*tch slap his mom if it comes to it(well maybe not that far). so must she what she is doing the boyfriend in this situation is an adult his mother can't mkae him do anything.  

Answer 8

WOW! This is so bizarre that I had to go to your history to see if this was a fluke question. Based on your previous questions and answers, you seem to have your head in the right place.

I don't even know where to start with this one. First of all, I would suggest that your bf set his mom straight. It seems as if mom has ran his life and now that he has you, she does not have as much control over him anymore. Until he makes a stand, she will more than likely continue to try to seperate you from him.

Most parents tend to think that no one is good enough for their children, so that is not uncommon. What is uncommon is her desire to treat him like a boyfriend instead of a son. The only thing he can do at this point is for HIM to stop her and demand that she respect you or at least his decision to be in a relationship with you.

This is a horrendous situtaion, but I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 9

Yeah she likes him..for her boyfriend  

Answer 10

Their relationship sounds incestuous (on her part).

You didn't say what he thinks of all this, but he IS 19 and can get away if he wants.

Honestly, I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone's who's family is very 'Flowers in the ATtic."

It's not normal for a mother to have her 17 year old son sleeping in the same bed as her.

It's gross.

Run.

Answer 11

Did you ever think that maybe he is the father of one of those kids? Child molesters are women too. This story was so sick I could only read half of it . Protective service needs to be called on this women, the kids are NOT supposed to sleep with their mom. You should call protective service god knows what she's doing with the other kids.