Is Tom mentally messed up, just "young" or is he a nice guy? (READ ALL PLEASE)?

Question

While I was separated, I met a younger guy (Tom Age 22) online. He was always jealous of my male friend (Jim 28) and I (37)'s relationship. So he made up a fake girlfriend to try to make me jealous.

In Oct2006, Jim borrowed $400 from me. Jim is an ex-con and foster child. I met Jim at a hotel one morning to help him with some business plan for himself. Tom found out about the hotel and got very upset. Tom said his parents died in an accident and then disappeared from the online world. But later returned and said that he made the accident up cuz he was just upset I was sleeping with Jim. Well I WASNT.

Dec06 - I borrow $1500 from Tom for house payment.

Jun07 - I got back with my husband. Tom was upset but he offered the $1500 as a gift since I had not paid it back yet. I decided to meet Tom for lunch face to face since he helped me with the $1500. He is a great guy actually. I mentioned wanting to buy a WII in front of him. Tom got upset about that.

READ ON PLEASE:

Answer 1

Honestly,  I think that Tom should fly the coop.  You are a married woman.  Your focus needs to be on your baby and husband.  While it's nice to have online friends we truly don't know what type of people they are.  I don't necessary think he's a jerk but I do think that he has no place to be in your life when your married with kids other then friendship.  And from the sounds of it........he wants more then friendship.

Answer 2

did you make a typing error when you stated your age as 37?? you need to grow up. what a messed up story, with you being the central user and cheat. without your stated age id have thought this was written by some silly teenage girl. god only knows how your poor daughter will turn out with this kind of life as a role model.

Answer 3

I think your a money hungery wh*re that uses anything and everything in your path. Your disgusting....same as I amswered last time to this same question...just a little cleaner version.

Answer 4

IGNORE THIS PERSON!  She's a troll!  She used to repeatedly post this question on here; it's the same story, but with different names.

Answer 5

It sounds to me that both Tom and Jim are a bit retarded and that you are a w***e...nuff said

Answer 6

I think you're the one who's messed up here. You have a husband, yet you continue a relationship with this really young guy, and borrow money from him and not pay him back? Do you not see how this makes YOU look?

Answer 7

Honestly, in my own opinion, I think that you are a manipulative ***** who should stop leading these men on and get a ******* job and take care of your own bills.  The guy obviously really cared about you and you only cared about his wallet.  You make a lot of women your age look really bad.  Be independent, you are toooooooo old for that ****!!!

Answer 8

Uhhh, I think that you are the one that has the problem.  I don't blame Tom for being upset you lent Jim money and that you wanted to buy a WII.  After all, he gave you money to keep a roof over your head and you give money to someone else and talk about buying an expensive toy that isn't necessary.  Tom shouldn't have lied, but maybe he needed an excuse to get away from you for a while and figure out what was going on.  You're lucky your husband stuck by you.  You are messing around in a lot of stuff that could put your family at risk.  At your age you should have grown-up by now.  Think about this and do something about it.