Is YOUR MOM one part of a bigger problem?

Question

Proud Stepford- ah yes, i too have come from a magical woman who holds the key to righting all wrongs. Let's hear it for mom's! they know how to get melted chapstick out of clothes!

Answer 1

Only when she nags. Otherwise, no she isn't.

Answer 2

No. My mom solves all the problems:)

Answer 3

My mom is a "fixer" if you dont think like her she can "fix" you to be a better person like her

Answer 4

Yes- along with her mother and the claustrophobic, judgemental, bossy spider's web of a family network she has woven.

Answer 5

Not at all!!! She's the most loving, and caring person I know!

Now some on her side of the family, I could NOT say the same for!

Answer 6

What you say about my momma?

Answer 7

She wasn't part of a problem, she was a problem unto herself, may she rest in peace.

Answer 8

my mum is the main source of my problems.

Answer 9

Yes and unfortunately she unintentionally saddled me with a bunch of her problems as well.  Sigh....  I love the woman but she was a wreck.

Answer 10

OH SNAP!

Answer 11

yes, as she is human and displays these traits in very clear ways, which tend to agitate me sometimes. she lives in denial, she is impotent often in handling issues, looks to me for guidance more than i do her. sometimes i dont mind and do understand why she is the way she is.

to know someone on a deep level is to understand why they are "the way they are", love and accept them for it, while always trying to motivate them toward lasting and positive change.

alternately, in many ways she has been part of solutions as well, just like we all are on both sides of positive and negative action.

Answer 12

Yeah only my moms nagging gets to me since she wants me to clean my room which is so unfair to me

Answer 13

my mom was, but not now. i don't talk to her.

Answer 14

As Baba said "she was a problem unto herself".  

Now she's not in a position to bully me anymore.

Passive-aggression is the tool of the powerless and THAT was part of a bigger problem.  Thankfully, its gotten better for women since the Bad Old Days of powerlessness.