Is a 16,900 engagement too much money?

Question

and would it be too much to worry about carrying around with you everyday?

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is it impolite to pick out your engagement ring?

Answer 1

Yes way too much money. It can be easily lost and then its all wasted. I think its ok to give a guy some suggestions on what you like and dislike. But let him pick it out and get what he can afford.

Answer 2

personally, yes. depending on what kind of career you have, you could very easily knock the solitaire out of place or even the diamonds out of the band could fall out. go to a local jeweler (cheaper) and show him/her a picture of what you want and ask if they have something or can find something similar with a much lower price.

it is not impolite to pick out your ring, but it is something that should be decided between you and your boyfriend. for example, before my fiance proposed we looked at hundreds of rings together. he wanted to get what i wanted but wanted to suprise me at the same time. so we chose 3 or 4 favorites and he picked 'the one'

hope i helped!

Answer 3

I think it is too much but if you have the money, buy what you want.

I don't think it is impolite to pick out your engagement ring if he asks for your opinion.

Answer 4

its not too much if he can afford it. depends on the person. and you shouldnt have to worry about carrying it around. good luck :)

Answer 5

i would be happy for a ring from walmart. i just love him and thats all that matters!

Answer 6

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yes

Answer 7

wooa that's a lot. Mine was only $3000 and it's perfect. Not too big or small. And I though $3000 was a lot. You don't want to wear anything that expensive. You'll be a good target to get mugged.

I don't think it's impolite but a little unromantic. It's never a bad idea to casually windowshop when you are at the mall together. Just so he gets the idea on what you prefer.

Answer 8

Yes, I do believe that's too much for an engagement ring.

Yes, I'd worry about damaging and/or losing it.

It's not impolite if he asked for input, otherwise yes.

Answer 9

I picked out my engagement ring... and I second to the girl that said your ring costs more than my entire wedding Lol

Answer 10

Its beautiful, but its too much for a engagement i think, you should always make sure your ring is on your finger and you should let your groom pick out the ring

Answer 11

If you are asking if a $17k engagement ring is too much, it depends on how much your fiance makes.  Rule of thumb is two months salary, so unless he's making roughly $100,000 a year, then yes...it's too much.

And no, the only time it's impolite to pick your ring is if it's BEFORE he's proposed.

Answer 12

My goodness!  Yes, really yes to all of it!!

Answer 13

Unless your fiance is actually wealthy, that is a ridiculous sum to spend on an engagement ring.  It is common to pick out your own engagement ring today.  I see no problem with it. You are the one who is going to be wearing it, so you want something you like.

Yes, I do know someone who has a very high priced engagement ring, now married 18 years.  However, her husband (my former coworker) was also very wealthy (millions).

Answer 14

its way to much for me...ild rather use that money for a house or car....i dont need to have an expensive ring thats not my style...but if its what you want thats all that matters

Answer 15

personally- YEA!!!!!!!!!!!

i dont think its nessacarily impolite to pick out ur ring....depends on the situation and the couple i guess

Answer 16

It is a bit much.  It's all in perspective of what you are comfortable with.  Just so you know, your engagement ring is costing 7,000 more than MY WEDDING.

Answer 17

I picked out my ring. It was less than $500, for the set. Kudos to him if he's incredibly wealthy but that's a LOT of money (10 grand more than my entire wedding lol). Make sure you have GOOD insurance on it if you get it because it's likely to get stolen!

Answer 18

What?  Who can afford that for a pre-marriage ring?!

Answer 19

I think it depends on your and his financial situation. If you both are well off, stable and can either buy a house or all reayd have one then no.

If you would have to scrape by just to afford this ring and would not be able to get other important things because of it then yes.

You can always insure the ring so that isnt too much of an issue.

I dont think its rude to tell your boyfriend what you like but i think you should let him pick out the diamond and surprise you with it. Dont go with him.

Answer 20

why would you even need to ask a question like that. it's NOT up to you...it's up to your bf who I feel terrible for. You want to ask Y!A so you can 'show off'. Nobody on here cares what you spend on a ring but it's shallow of you to ask for one so expensive. Your bf is the one who wil paying for it, so let him decide if he even wants to get you one!

Answer 21

wow, i thought picking out  $1,000.00 was too much. i have no idea what your ring looks like but for that price tag the stone must be huge or at least look gawdy. do you really need a ring that expensive? no. why not pick something under $5,000.00, that seems more than enough.

Answer 22

do not spend that kind of money on a ring.  Buy a house!

Answer 23

Yes to all.

Answer 24

Jeeze, yes it is.

I'm not even spending that much on my wedding AND my honeymoon COMBINED.

If you ask a man for that ring, he will run scared. Especially in this day and time. Wouldn't you rather have a nice new car and a ring? And even still have some change to spare on gas and insurance?

Answer 25

It is an awful lot of money, but some couples can well afford it.

Answer 26

UM yea! Why wear a car on your finger??

No not impolite to want to pick out a ring, but impolite to think that you deserve a ring worth that much.

ADDITION:

No one is gonna know that its a Tiffany ring anyway. People just want to look at it. What will make you look like more of a materialistic woman is showing it off and saying its Tiffany. Who CARES! ITS NOT ABOUT THE RING< BUT ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP!!

Answer 27

Are you really that into labels?

I've often found that those with true wealth don't flaunt it as you seem to be wanting to do.

I know many people with jewelry from Cartier, Tiffany, and the like and none would be so presumptious to ask the question that you have posed.  

I think the real question is why are you so into what other people will think?

Answer 28

My fiance wanted me to pick out my own diamond. Being very humble and realistic, I actually picked out a sapphire for $2000. Your bf will probably let you know if he wants you to pick it.

If he is rich, then go right ahead and ask for the 16900 ring. If not, then yes, it's rude to even consider it.

Answer 29

i'm getting pretty sick of people on Y!A hating on people with nice rings.

my engagement ring was about 12k, and we didn't even bat an eye. considering the fact that the average US wedding is 29k for ONE DAY, i considered it a good idea the we eloped and INVESTED in an heirloom that i will wear EVERY DAY of my life and pass on to our children.

and i hate how people are always like "i'd spend it on a house or a car". a car and sometimes property is a depreciating asset- a diamond is not. a car will not last for ever and a home can be destroyed... but my diamond will be with my family forever.

as long as you can afford it, pay no mind to these haters.