Is a letter considered harassment?

Question

If you want to apologize to someone and they arent returning your calls, responding to emails or texts, and if you wanted to send them an apology letter via snail mail, is this considered harassment? I did something terrible to a friend and I want her to see that I am very sorry and I want to make it up to her. I was planning on sending her a letter to her at work so she had it when she gets back from vacation, as my last attempt to show how sorry I am and how I valued her friendship and I still do.

Answer 1

No the letter is not harrassment.. but if you did something very terrible this person might have decided that your action just went too far.. and she or he can't forgive. then you have to let go.. you can learn from the mistake you made.. as you said you did something rather terrible.. unfortunately not every person is that forgiving. you have learned already as you want to make amends and you know that what you did was wrong... that is good and will help you a lot in the future and will stop you from doing something like this again. but I am not sure if it will help with this friend.. it will only help if she values your friendship more than the hurt you caused.. then she will forgive you but if she doesn't you have to let go .. your concience is clear now.. you know you made a mistake and you did apologize and you can't do more ..  if the apology is rejected you have to let go of this friend. ..  and find a new friend.. that happens...we all make mistakes in life.. a good friend would most likely give you a second chance but again all depends how horrible it really was what you did.. x*x

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Whatever you did, you might try writing an apology, but she may tear it up without reading it, so write anyway and then leave her alone until she is ready to speak to you. IF you run into her accidentally, be kind and smile. She may not return the favor, but at least you will and later she may think about that and come around. But she will need some time, so give it to her.

Answer 4

If she has a restraining order against you, than you  are screwed. Otherwise, sending a letter is a very good way to apologize without invading your friend in anyway. However, if she doesn't answer your letter, than let it go. Call it quits and never contact her again.

Answer 5

Depends, are you going to harass her via the letter? If you are, then of course it is — and actually quite concrete evidence against you in the future should this be taken to a legal level for one reason or another (just how serious is this?). You seem as sincere as anyone in this medium though, so assuming you're honest here, go forward with your plan and write – be polite, honest, and sincere in your letter and mail it out; what do you have to lose with it?

Short answer: assuming she doesn't have some sort of legal restriction against doing so and that you don't harass her in the letter, give it a shot.

Answer 6

Unless she said NEVER to contact her I don't think it is harrasment.  If you haven't had the opportunity to apologize and just want to be heard for the apology and don't expect or force anything else, it seems fine.

Answer 7

Just answered a question like this....NEVER put anything in writing....NEVER.....you can't take it back or it can be misconstrued.  If someone is not responding to you by calls or whatever....don't write a letter.  Harassment can only be done if a person has told you once not to contact them.  If you have been informed only one time by a person to not talk to them, to leave them alone....any type of communication is harassment.

Answer 8

Perhaps say it with Hallmark.

That way the card says it all, and you can add a short note of 1-2 lines.

Dont skimp on the cost whatever you do.  This is not the time to look cheap.  As they say, you want to "care enough to send the very best"

Answer 9

Sometime an  apology is not enough, when you wrong someone.  It sounds like she is done with you,.  leave it alone. I would think it could very well  be considered harassment to send the letter to her work. And I think you have no friendship anymore.  She has ended it.