Is a married man a polygamist if he is separated but living w another woman?

Question

i've had an affair w this guy 5 yrs and we moved in together last yr. (he's been separated a little over a yr.) he filed for divorce but opted to stay married so that his wife will not lose certain benefits. i realize i have no future (legally) w/ him, but can she sue him for polygamy? are we considered 'common law' (in texas)?

Answer 1

Oh brother. This should be the least of your worries. As soon as you turn around he will be having another affair. Move out and leave him.

Answer 2

no you are considered a really bad person in texas,and mississippi, i also belive you are the reason he is no longer@ home and he is playing you for a fool,,,,,if the shoe fits,put it on

Answer 3

girl i think you cud find a better guy for yours to own alone... he did it once will he never do it to you?

Answer 4

no, you will need all the luck!

Answer 5

you need to end this shame of a relationship, why would he care if his wife has benefits, he is making sure she gets every thing and you nothing, he is still in love with her and is going back, she can not sue him for any thing but a divorce, get your self a single man who will marry you, because right now you are on the losing end, good luck to you but you need to leave if he can't divorce her and marry you.and he won't.and common law is between people who are not married, being the other woman does not get you any props.

Answer 6

You have to be careful in Texas.  If they decide they think you are a polygamist they will raid your house and come charging in with tanks and snipers.

Seriously, I wouldn't worry about the lawsuits.  Usually common law marriage is 7 years, but if you've only lived together 1, then you're far from it, and no judge is going to consider you common law married if he hasn't divorced wife number one.

Of course, if she does sue, it would be easy for him to solve the problem by taking away her benefits right then.

You always open the door to serious insults when you admit to having an affair around here.  I hope you're ready for some of the answers you are going to get.

Answer 7

well polygamy is technically being married to more than one person. As long as he is not married (legally) to two people, he is not a polygamist. I don't know if there are other restrictions concerning living with two people, so I can't help you there.

Answer 8

It's not polygamy it's adultery. Look up the laws in Texas on the internet for some thing like this. Some states don't even recognize common law marriage. And if any thing she could get a divorce for his adultery.

Answer 9

No, I dont think so. If they are legally seperated, then I dont think that there is anything in the book about starting or maintaining any other relationships.

Im not sure about the common law thing. I think if he is still legaly married then the common law thing (if it is even an issue in that state) doesnt stand.

Answer 10

No, he is still legally married.  Common law marriages must be within common law states, and the time is at least 7 years.  This man is still married to his wife.  He has no legal binding to you, and truly is not yours.  Itr would be nice if he could choose or his wife would choose to obtain a legal divorce.  Somehow he is unfair to himself, to you, and certainly to her.  In the end who will wind up the loser--- most likely you will.  Please consider your life and the time you put into this kind of relationship, and ask yourself the question--- where are we headed?

---- Toni D.  

Answer 11

No.  Just living together for however long does not make you common law married.  You have to actually state that you are husband and wife to be considered common law married.

Answer 12

it's only considered polygamy if he marries you. so no, she can't sure. and technically since they are legally separated (which i assume they are) they are only legally married but she doesnt really have a say in domestic things like who he's dating, as long as it does not affect her financial or legal situation.

i live in new york, so the answers may be different for you but i'm pretty sure that's how it goes.

and remember, when in doubt, just move to canada!

Answer 13

Seriously you can do better then this guy why put up with these shenanigans.  What you do not deserve a husband and a family rubbish get rid of this guy and find someone who you can settle down with that has no baggage.  

This guy is messed up he don't want a divorce because he knows he will have alimony up the whazzoooo.