Is abortion a right or wrong desicion? Please give me your oppinion!?

Question

I am 15 and had unprotected s*x, and

I think I might be pregnant.

I never in my life thought i would even have to think

about abortions, but the guy that i had s*x with

told me that he wants nothing to do with me unless i have

one and that he will pay for the abortion.

I would get one but ive always been so against that.

And if I were to keep it,

then my mom would never speak to me

again cuz she thinks im her little angel,

and my dad would never be able to look at me the same.

What should i do?

Im leaning towards abortion because then my parents wouldnt find out. Is that a bad choice?

Answer 1

abortion is always bad..

but first take a test maybe u r not..

Answer 2

Do you want to keep the baby?? instead of killing it why don't you put the baby up for adoption just go over to trying to concieve and see how many couples can't get pregnant.Good luck

Answer 3

it depends how you feel about it. if your parents turn like that you should tell them that it is how you feel about it

Answer 4

There is no right and wrong decisions when it comes to your body and abortion. Firstly I think you need to go to a doctor to find out whether you are, in fact, pregnant. Although you have had unprotected s*x it does not mean you are. You probably don't want to hear this right now, but if you are having s*x and you don't want to have a baby you need to at least use a condom. There's also STDs to consider.

I think the most important thing to consider is how a baby would impact you, not the guy who got you pregnant or your parents reaction.  Trust me, it's a full time job, and a bloody hard one at that, and I'm 28 with a loving partner. And would you be capable of raising a child? Or be willing to have a child and then give it up for adoption?

Maybe I'm a bit more relaxed than your family, but speaking as a mother i would always hope that my daughter would come and talk to me about any problems no matter how bad they were. Have you considered maybe another older relative or friend?

If you chose to have an abortion make sure it's your decision, not the creep of a guy who is trying to force you into it with the threat of never seeing you again. No matter your decision I'd dump him quicker than looking at him. He doesn't sound like he cares about you at all.

No matter what anyone here says, you are not a bad person to have an abortion. No one ever wants to have one, but sometimes people are put in bad situations.

I hope that helps. Look after yourself!

Answer 5

You need to find out for sure whether you are pregnant first before you make the decision, perhaps you don't need to make it at all.  If you have a good relationship with your parents i think you need to tell them.  Hope it goes well, good luck.

BTW, my opinion on abortion is that it is your choice, but you really, really need to talk to someone (an adult) about it before you make up your mind, you can't go back on this once its done.

Answer 6

hello--you are 15--he won't be your boyfriend forever most likely--the child will forever be. guys will say anything they want you to hear dear. if you think you are pregnant, tell your mom and get tested. and, you are under age--so your parents will have to sign a waiver--they will find out. don't you want their support? yes you made a mistake, they will be disappointed, but you are their child and they love you and would want you to come to them in a time of need. and, my opinion--life begins at conception. just my thoughts on it. oyu made the choise to have unprotected s*x--step up to the plate and be responsible should you be pregnant. there ar eother choices--open adoptions/closed adoptions, but this is a decision that will forever mark your life. how do you want it to play out? my cousin got pregnant at 16 and every one was hush hush, sadly he was stillborn due to other complications--but, no one turned on her. and she is now a successful rn with two teen sons and still with the boys father at 35 yrs of age. talk to your mom. but statistically your bf will not be your one true love, i know oyu think he may, but he most likely will not.

Answer 7

it's time to grow up. you gave up the goodies. he will never make things official. that's why your parents don't want you to have s*x because of things like this. any man that cares for you will not ask you to have an abortion. stop having s*x. at least until you graduate high school.

what you do is up to you. but i must say he will never be with you

Answer 8

I notice it about what every one else wants and not what you want,

Sod the lot of them you want to keep your baby keep the baby there is plenty of help out there which does not include your family.

i am 8 weeks pregnant and I'm 33 i have 2 girls already and I'm pregnant with my partners baby my mom and grand parents disowned me because I'm not married with my new partner and said i have committed a sin and I'm 33 for gods sake.

Follow your heart but if you have a termination it will haunt you for the rest of your life hun  

Answer 9

first of all take a pregnancy test...and yes that is a bad choice you know that deep inside too you did a really stupid thing and now your leaning on the verge of doing another horrible thing. seriously why didn't you use a condom you know you can buy them right? whatever im not here to criticize or judge you all I can say is your family can adjust to it if they can't its their problem. oh btw if the guy is going to leave you because you don't get an abortion what does that tell you about him?

Answer 10

i dont think abortion is the right thing to do.. i think you should go through with it since you did hav s*x in the first place.... it doesnt matter what your parents will think bout you.. tell them the truth that your not as innocent as they think...

Answer 11

personally i think it is your own choice. don't go with what others want, do what you want to. it's something that will change your life either way you go with it. being fifteen it would be a huge responsibility to care for and nurture a baby. it would also mess up your high school experience. on the other hand you could live your life regretting what it would have been like if you went through with the pregnancy and brought life into the world. im sure your parents would get over it eventually, and seriously if the guy wouldnt talk to you again if you didnt get an abortion then is he really worth it?

seriously think about the options. both will change your life forever!

OH, and before you get too worried... best take a pregnancy test. and if it turns out that you are go from there!

best of luck!

Answer 12

So you wanna kill the life that you carelessly created just because you don't want your parents to know?  You made the decision to have s*x, so you need to deal with the consequences.  If you have a conscience then you'll regret having an abortion for the rest of your life.

Answer 13

I personally feel that it is wrong. I also think you should not make this choice alone. If you feel that you can not talk to your parents, please talk to someone at school a counselor or someone you trust. You have other options and whatever you decide will stay with you for the rest of your life - long after this guy is just a memory. Good luck

ps if this guy cared about you he would not put a condition to your future relationship

Answer 14

First off if he really "liked" you or cared about it in any way he wouldn't say those things toward you and you two would be official.

I definitely wouldn't be having intercourse with him again, especially unprotected intercourse after his insensitively.

Secondly you should pick the parent you trust the most and have the best repor with and talk to them about this ASAP.  

If you don't want to get an abortion then don't do it.  There are other options like adoption out there if you don't want to raise the child.

Now is the time to grow up and stop thinking about others but about yourself and now the life that is growing inside of you that is a part of you.  That is a life.  Can you take a life because of your mistake?  That is your choice and something you will have to live with for a VERY long time.  

Most people I know that have gotten an abortion have regretted it and saids it haunts them sometimes.  You are only 15 and you seriously need the advice and help of someone that is close to you and that loves you.  This "boy" does not  have love nor care for you.

Good luck!

Answer 15

In my opinion I think abortion is wrong.

seriously if you cant do the time then don't do the crime meaning if you want to have s*x then be more careful about it that way you won't have to worry yourself with choices like this.

You even said you were against it....there you go.....you just answered your own question. Don't do it.

If you are pregnant then I would tell you to go through with it and give it up for adoption if you don't change your mind about keeping it.

who cares what your parents may think. They may come around and they may not, but this is YOUR situation you have to be a "big girl" now and make your own decisions.

In the end you'll be the one making the decision. Choose wisely.

good luck & god bless :)

Answer 16

well first of all you should of kept ur legs closed or at least used protection.. second if your against it dont do it.. dont ever do something ur against doing just to keep a guy happy.. ur parents will get over it and i would ditch him.. i wouldnt kill a baby just so no one found out that i did something stupid.. live and learn.. pay the consequences.. sorry if that sounds harsh.. but im sick of teenagers thinking that they are grown up enough to fool around but then  not grown up enough to live with that choice

Answer 17

Nobody here can answer that question for you, because ultimately you have to make that decision the only advice I could give is that you decide whats best for you, not him and not your parents. If you agree with them thats fine it's your choice, but make sure your making it for you.Really think it over and  Good Luck! I wish you the best!!!!!