Is adoption the best option for my unborn child? ?

Question

I found out about 6 months ago that I am pregnant. It was definitely unplanned, and not what I wanted. The father and I decided we would put the child up for adoption when she was born, however, as months passed we started to consider keeping the baby, but I was still not thrilled over the whole idea. About a month ago I found out that the father is in a four year long relationship with another women, and is also having a flings with a married women. The father already has two kids and exposes his kids all of the women in his life, none of whom are their mother. The father still very much wants to be a part of our baby's life and is willing to fight for it. Should I let him have any custody? Would adoption be the best option for the baby? How might giving up my baby for adoption effect me?

Answer 1

We are a loving, active and happy married couple with two beautiful kitties who live in Southeastern Michigan. We are home study approved waiting to adopt a newborn to love and cherish for the rest of our lives. We do not have any children, and are praying that our dream of being parents becomes a reality.

We live near greatest schools, parks and libraries.  We love to be outdoors, camping in our travel trailer, walking the beaches and swimming in lakes, spending happy times with our families and making memories at home. We look forward to sharing all of these wonderful things with a child.

Please visit our website www.MostLovingFamily.com, where you will learn more about us, read our birth mother letter and see our slideshow.  Our parent profile is also at http://www.parentprofiles.com/profiles/db26802.html

We hope to hear from you and wish you peace in your heart and mind as you make your decision.

Ann and Eric

Answer 2

you should give the the baby up for adoption because trust been a mother is so hard and your up all night feeding,changing nappies,play with them it is a full time job.i know what it is like because im a mother of a lil girl and i never get a change to sleep eat or even watch tv or have a lie down because im a single parent and been a single parent is awful you have to look after the baby 24-7.but after i had gave birth my boyfriend had broke up with me because he had feeling for someone else but still i wasnt gonna give my child away because of him.i dont care what he wanted im the mother here i do all the work.so yeah get adoption

Answer 3

I  was given up for adoption when I was an infant. It was the most loving and unselfish thing my mother could have ever done for me. I was given such a gift and my life was forever changed. I was able to get a college education and be very successful. My family who adopted me were able to provide me with everything my mother wasn't able to because she was young. The most important thing in adoption is finding a couple who has a strong family, financially secure to offer your child and education and everything else they will ever need, and a house that has love beyond words to give!!!


I always knew I was adopted and every day I am so thankful and feel so blessed for the life she allowed me to have. I can only say that it is a hard thing to do, but I am proof that pure love of a birthmother can open doors for the future for their child.


My husband and I are now in the process of wanting to adopt. We have an amazing life and I want to give back, what was given to me. If I can help you in any way please let me know. I wish you the very best and if you ever want to talk you can contact me [e-mail]

Sincerely,

Kristin