Is age really a big deal?

Question

I think that maybe sometimes when it comes to age and relationships it's like crazy. I think that you should at least be at a certain age to date someone older but, i mean is that really such a big deal. I am not saying a 21 year old should date a 12 year old. I'm just saying if ure 16 or older and ure dating someone that is like 2 times ure age is that really bad? I feel that love can happen anytime.

Answer 1

I feel a little torn by your question.  I am 10 years younger than my partner, and age has never been an issue.  But I think that if someone is twice the age of their partner, that they are just in two very different worlds.  What I was doing at say 18 (since 16 year olds are still minors) is totally different than what I am going in life now at 26.  I don't know that I would be able to deal with the drama again.  

Answer 2

Oddly enough, a huge amount of g*y teenagers pursue older men. I've seen it over and over again, and i've done it myself. statistically, a g*y man's first boyfriend is 6 years older on average. I think it's just how we are. I personally don't see a problem with it, i mean it's more dangerous and a lot of older men are sneaky and manipulative (and really good at it) but if there's a real, honest potential relationship i wouldn't let age get in the way. if you love him then you're ok. i mean we're already doing it wrong hahaha i don't thing the regular rules apply to us anymore. just be careful, older men can do some horrible things.

if you know and trust him then take your chances and see what happens. good luck!

Answer 3

Disregarding state laws on the subject, I don't think it has to do with age so much as with maturity.  When a 16 year old is dating a 32 year old, they're obviously in different places in life, and they probably don't relate to things the same way.  Sure, they might relate to things in a physical way, but emotionally, the 16 year old isn't nearly as ready as the 32 year old.  

When people are older, a 10 year gap might not mean much at all, but at the earlier stages of life, it's a huge chasm that might be able to be bridged.

Answer 4

heck yes it matters for relationships. relationships are based off common understanding and similar likes and maturity. At 33 i couldnt see myself dating anyone under 23. just off the maturity and direction of their life.

Answer 5

people get called "cougar" if they date someone younger than them. i think it's bullshit. i agree, if you're over sixteen you SHOULD be allowed to date anyone, no matter what age- you're old enough to decide for yourself.

OK so now when do i get my date with Angelina Jolie? =D  

Answer 6

I agree

Answer 7

Two weeks after my 34th birthday I met a man who (though I did not know it at the time--I don't ever ask for IDs) was nineteen yrs. old.  We quickly became lovers and were together for twenty four years, parting only because he had a career opportunity I couldn't let him pass up!  I have also dated men much, much older when I was in my teens and twenties.

Answer 8

i dont think age should b a big deal, but alot of older ppl (like parents) dont like the idea to see their children with someone 5-10 yrs older...

Answer 9

I agree with you on all counts!

Answer 10

I think its ok for a 15 year old to date anyone between the ages of 13 and 17. If someone is 18 and older then I think they could date anyone who is 18 and older.

Answer 11

ewwww

i cant imagine being 16 and dating someone who's 32.