Is anti-social like this normal? How to help?

Question

My sister is 22 years old and will soon to be an elementary school teacher. She is a kind person and utterly dedicated her profession because she wants to change lives. But there are also some changes she should be making in her own life. She does not have people she could truly consider friends (and has not since middle school). She lives at home and hangs around with our younger siblings and parents. She simply refuses to do anything that would lead her out of her comfort zone of being just with the family and actually getting to know people her own age. I see this as unhealthy, but she insists that she is happy with her life the way it is. She insists that teaching will fill up her whole life, so she won’t have time for people. Are friendships actually optional in life? Could she really be happy this way or is she likely to scared to change how she has been for years? I am just worried about her, but I am prying too much?

Answer 1

Your sister has decided what she wants to do she is devoted and is giving her all to it.  Maybe later when she can find time for other things she will no doubt meet with other people and share her experiences with them, so long as she is happy doing what she has chosen to do, that is all that matters.

Answer 2

You're prying to much.  You can only tell her this is your opinion but you can't make her do things she doesnt want to do.

Sooner or later she will learn these things on her own time.

Answer 3

Yeah, I think you're prying way too much. Teaching is very fulfilling and is a full time job. You don't have much time to do anything else. If she's happy I'd leave her alone.

Answer 4

You have every right to be worried and her response was just what any other anti social person would say. They like to believe their life is or will be good. In reality there is a loneliness that she's feeling. maybe she was heart broken, or maybe she was hurt by a friend. You should dig a little deeper. She'll eventually open up to you, seeing how you care. Good luck:)