Is anyone a cutter here? im not but my friend is...? ?

Question

what can i do? shes saying she really needs to tonight, but really shes done enough. how can i get her to go to bed? to stop? this is over email she doesnt live near me.

Answer 1

tell her to go cut more it will make her feel better and shutup

Answer 2

i have once and never will again... its very difficult to stop someone who is on the breaking point just try reminding her? that u love her and are there for her always and get her to talk about her problem thats what always works for me  good luck and ur a great friend for helping  

Answer 3

Tell her that if she dosnt stop it will ruin her skin, sum scars will never heal and doing this will leave her with permenant scars and will be a constant reminder of what she was trying to deal with.

But thing is if you are a cutter u wnt listen to advice people are giving you.

Maybe you could ring her and talk

As long as she goes to bed happy, she might not do it

Its if she goes to bed with loads of thoughts buzzing round her head its a problem

I used to cut myself and i found that if i stayed up late i was more likly to do it

Maybe if she has an early night, gets a hot drink gets all cozie in bed and talks to you on the phone until she gets tired she wnt even think about doing it. And try not to talk about problems talk about the weekend or going back to school?

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Answer 4

Thats horrible. My twin sister cuts herself and it's heartbreaking.

I dont think there is anything you can do but try and convince her not to. Try and tell her that cutting herself will not make anything better but only make things worse. Try to convince her to stay up and keep talking to you and mayby talk over MSN or AIM or whatever so you have an immediate idea about how she is feeling/doing.

Other then speaking to her there isnt really anything you can do. Try and send her some funny videos or some videos of hot guys/gals to try and change her mood. Mayby if she's feeling horny she wont cut herself. I dunno.

Good Luck

Answer 5

Is there any way you can call her and talk to her?  You can't stop her from doing it, especially if you're not there with her, but if you can talk to her you might be able to help her redirect her thoughts and help her calm down.  If you're worried she might go to far I would suggest getting ahold of someone who can help her just in case she goes to far.

Answer 6

tell her the feeling is temporary and she could get over the situation, thats what i tell myself so i won't cut

Answer 7

There are many reasons why people cut - but by far the commonest is because they feel they have no control of their lives (and the pain makes them feel real).

Your friend probably needs better ways to convince herself that she is important. She already has one good friend (you) - maybe she needs more friends, and to spend more time in their company.

Perhaps there is something that she is good at: sport, playing a musical instrument, or cooking. If she can put more energy into a hobby she will have less interest and less motivation for cutting. (It is even better if this is a hobby she can share with other people).

If she has children, it may be that she can put herself more into their enthusiasms (football mums are usually too involved in their children's football to find time for severe depression).

Mainly she needs to find something which interests her more than cutting does - though this is not always easy.

Answer 8

i used to, tell her that doing that will ruin her skin. i'm not even joking, that's waht stopped me from doing it cos i hate the thought of wrinkles and cuts lol.

Answer 9

Try telling her to wait until morning, see if she still needs to. In the morning, if she hasn't, tell her that wasn't all that bad at all, see if she can go longer without doing it. She needs to find someone who can help her, you are a great support, but I mean like a counselor.

I am a cutter, I have been for 7 years, but I haven't done it in 3 months, but I still get urges, but I do exactly what I said to tell her above and it's been working for me.

Good luck.

Answer 10

I used to cut and it's one of the hardest addictions to get over the best thing to do is ask her why why she feels like she needs to cut, what or who upset her just get into her head but let her know you are worried about her. She might say something like I know but it just feels good/better but be stern and ask her how long will it feel good for a couple of seconds, minutes if that tell her it's not worth what ever is going on tell her to write about it and as nice as possible suggest to her to talk to someone like a counselor or therapist. It'll take a while but she eventually stop cutting with some help.