Is anyone else due (or was due) around...?

Question

a date that had a lot of emotional baggage attached to it or a date when something really tragic happened? I'm due very close (within days) to the date both of my parents died.

If you can relate to this somehow.. how did you cope? Did you just not stress over it? I'm trying not to but it's a lingering feeling.

Another weird thing is that I conceived around my mother's birthday. How ironic is that considering this was an unexpected pregnancy?

Answer 1

It's hard for me to think too seriously about it because there are a lot of small things around my due date. I conceived a couple days before my 2 year anniversary which is no big deal, but I could have the baby anywhere from my mom's bday to my niece's to my late grandmother's. I'm kind of hoping it's born a day late so it can be on my grandmother's birthday because she meant a lot to me and died when I was about 15; I think it would be a great tribute. But my brother and his wife conceived a week and a half before my husband and I, so they could possibly have the baby on my mom's or neice's bday as well. But for them it's very significant because my sister-in-law lost her mother probably right around the time they conceived, so they had just started to get done with the funeral and sympathy cards when they found out they were pregnant. For them and the whole family on that side it's very much a celebration of life and they even talked about possibly including her mother's name in the baby's name.

If it was something big like with you and your parents' death I would totally be thinking about it, but usually we can turn these coincidences into celebrations of both their lives and your child's which is the nice thing about new babies. Whether or not you give birth on the exact date is irrelevant because it's up to you how you want to look at it and probably the entire few weeks surrounding the date you are thinking about it.

Answer 2

Unexpected pregnancy for you, but maybe your parents had their own ideas for you!  :-)  That is how I like to look at it since I have been through something very similar.

Answer 3

I was born on the day my Grandma died, just a few years after she died.

My little sisters (twins) were born on leap day which is also the day my Great Grandma's mother died AND her grandmother was born on.

My mom experienced a death in the family each time she got pregnant, except with my brother. So that's three pregnancies surronded by deaths.

My mom's dad died on her birthday.

My boyfriend's mom died within a couple days of his birthday.

My cousin passed away right after I found out I was pregnant.

I could keep going but i'm going to stop there...

I was born with this birthmark on my arm and freckles and my mom used to tell me they all were angel kisses and I always believed the birthmark on my arm was from my grandma - dont know why, just did.

I actually am hoping to go longer than my due date so my baby can be born on the day my boyfriend's mother (who has passed) was born. I am naming my child after her so I think it would be nice if she was born on that day.

I don't think it has to be a bad thing. I think your parents are watching over you and your baby and maybe thats why the dates are hitting so closely? I don't know what you believe so I hope that doesnt offend you, im not trying to offend... just saying what I think. ;]

Answer 4

i cant relate but sorry to hear about your parents.. but maybe its a sign .. like a real good one.. ive heard of people that had there babys around times like those and it really helped them around that time because they had something new and exciting enter the world! you just have to think of the positive outcome as much as possible!! Congrats n Good Luck!

Answer 5

Your not alone every year around the time that my father passed away I get really sad and I think of him my youngest son looks just like my dad and he is a reminder. I like to fix my dads favorite meal or eat something sweet in his honor. Grief lasts a life time but you don't have to stop being happy because of it. Laughter though tears is the best medicine.

Answer 6

awww I think its just that you have angels watching over you, and your received a blessing :). of course all children are a blessing but I think yours maybe extra special :). I didnt really conceive at a significant time, but I think its very cool that you did. I look at it as they left the world around this time and you are bringing in a new life, I thinks its very sweet, may sound a little corny but oh well, actually come to think of it I am due Christmas day, and My grandmother passed away when I was 16, December 29th, maybe she'll be born on that day :), anyways who knows everything happens for a reason...good luck to you hun