Is anyone else very deep and analytical about everything in their life?

Question

As I've got older and obviously had some good and a lot of bad experiences, I feel that I have become too analytical and deep about everything, do other people do this?

I find it increasingly difficult to move on from things that happen until I have dissected them into oblivion and got to the bottom of them. I am finding it very hard to move on from something right now, although it has been a very big part of my life and has affected me very badly, but still, it has been months and I think I should be starting to get over it by now. I just don't know why I can't put it behind me but every time I think I am making headway I just keep going back even further and getting more and more upset all the time.

Could anyone offer me any advice, because really I've no need to keep torturing myself over everything and it's not getting me anywhere. I know I've got a lot to be thankful for and all that stuff, but that just doesn't help at the moment.

I'm usually quite good company and in general I see the bright side of things, just not right now!

Answer 1

You're fine, relax.

A lot of people use their brains to over analyze things. It's only natural.

From what I see around me, this is very typical for women, especially.

I believe that once you really find something better to contemplate on, it will be easier to let go of past experiences.

If you think you are over thinking things, what about trying some visualization excercises? This will help you relax and let go of things.

Good luck.

Answer 2

i agree with marina.  i think the over analyzing is a way of dealing with emotions, this is how we get lost or paralyzed, trapped in the intellectual details when really there are raw emotions that need to be addressed and expressed.  Once the underlying emotions are dealt with the circular thinking will dissipate and you can get out of the rut, but in some cases this could take years, so if you cannot open up and understand your own emotions or emotional reactions to people then at least try not to create this labyrinth of thoughts which will only bog you down more.  

anyway, that's my experience.  good luck!

Answer 3

I am very much like this.  I hyper analyze everything.  This-as annoying as it is to people around me- has done more good than harm.  I learn more from each experience because I take the time to pay attention to the details.

When I was younger, I would get stalled-like you are talking about.  just get paralyzed, dragged down by the process.  The older I get, the better I am at doing the reflection, the work of sorting stuff out and carrying on with other things.  One thing that helps me is to sort of schedule time to dwell.  Like refuse to think about it at work, or when I'm with certain people, but allow time later-while taking a bath or working out.  Also, I've had to learn to leave other peple out of it.  I used to want and need other people to validate my conclusions or be part of finding them.  It isn't necessary and forcing their involement most of the time just confuses the matter, slows me down and makes moving on impossible.  

Answer 4

I understand what you're saying. I've got the same problem (or at least, quite similar). When there is something bugging me, I take a long period out of my day to sit and meditate. I try to pick apart the problem and find a solution, and even when I do, I still sometimes feel that bad (almost guilty) feeling. After this, I try to put everything in perspective. If it was embarrassing, I tell myself that they probably don't remember it. If it was a situation that really made you uncomfortable, maybe you're moving. Just tell yourself that you wont see any of the people who made you uncomfortable after you move. There is always something out there that will make you feel better. Trust me, I had the same issue just recently.

I know how terrible this feels. I really hope you can get through it soon. Nobody deserves to feel like that.

Answer 5

Sounds like you have a bout of depression now. Go to your friendly doc and have a chat about it. He/she might suggest some group therapy or even a nice holiday.

Your past is part of you and you can never escape it but you can accept it and not let it rule you. Try to learn from it, so mistakes are not repeated. Analysis of it is useful to help with this learning process

Answer 6

I'm analytical also, but I realized that most issues with people are not that complicated. They nearly always involve emotional defenses, narcissistic injuries, etc., that pretty much explain the whole thing . You probably are simply lacking the right information to figure out what happened. Usually, I realize the person I was having difficulties with had certain emotional limitations or was irrational, and that's why things got chaotic or bad. Then I decided how to handle that person in future. I don't know enough about the issue that you're dealing with, but almost everything can be boiled down to some human dynamic that is easily explainable. Once you've simplified it, you can decide what actions to take.

P.S. You can only do this if you first acknowledge your own emotional investment and what fantasies and ruminations are preventing you from understanding the situation. Sometimes we are so caught up in what we wanted to happen that we can't think straight.