Is anyone in Ontario trying to keep their adoption order closed or vetoed?

Question

I am looking for information about the change in legislation that is coming in September that will open adoption orders in Ontario despite the fact it does not recognize the privacy rights of birth mothers. It was overturned last year but is going to happen again and the same day the legislation goes into affect (and opens records) is the FIRST day veto information is available - who knows when it will be processed. I need to keep the order closed as it mentions people I do not want my child to find or know. We have been reunited and that is all I want to happen.

Answer 1

Your "child" is obviously now an adult and you should be respecting that fact. What your child may be able to obtain is THEIRS, not yours. By denying your child their own information you are being selfish and unfair.

Put on your big girl panties and act like a true mother, be open and honest with your child.  

Answer 2

Special privacy rights for birth mothers are a myth.  They have as many privacy rights as any other citizen - Adoption is not, after all,l the witness protection program!

Government has no place keeping the facts of ones own life a secret.  It is the rights of adult adoptees that are being violated and adult adoptees are being discriminated against in a huge way by being denied the very thing that non-adopted citizens take for granted - the truth of their own origins and access to records of their own birth.

I understand you not wanting Your records given out but at the same time the adoptee deserves access to THEIR records about their lives.

Answer 3

So, what you are saying is that you don't feel your child deserves the same rights as anyone else. The right to see and understand the documents surrounding his or her birth.  You need help- your child is an adult now, and doesn't need your "protection"

Answer 4

https://www.gov.on.ca/ont/portal/!ut/p/....

This website talks about it.... It says that they plan on accepting Vetos starting Sept 08, where as people applying for information will have to wait until June of 2009.  

Answer 5

THERE ARE NO PRIVACY RIGHTS TO PARENTS WHO HAVE SURRENDERD. This law gives you more privacy rights than you have ever had.

I think this law is sick, and I hope YOU have the strength to treat your grown child like an adult one day.

Maybe I should come and kidnap you and take your identity, seal your records, take you from your family, change all of your information and decide when and If i'll ever let you have it again because I don't want to deal with any emotions that may come up.

Just be honest with him/her about what happened. He/she has a right to know and you don't or shouldn't have a right to keep that information with her/him. If you're honest chances are he/she won't even want to meet them. If you hide it and he/she gets the information from other sources, then she/ll just walk into the situation blindly.

Whoever encourages these secrets is crazy.  

Answer 6

So - you are allowed to know all of YOUR history?

But you won't allow your grown child - an adult - to know THEIRS?

PPFFFFTTTTTTT.

Go get some therapy.

Life isn't all about you.

Answer 7

As an Ap in Ontario, I applaud this new legislation. My children have the right to know their complete truths. Also, I believe the veto will only veto the right for contact between you and your child, not any other members of the natural family.

You need to trust your adult child. That he or she will make the right desisions for their self. This is not in your control and perhaps it should not be.