Is anyone shocked or saddened?

Question

I read this Q posted just a minute ago, asking how old everyone was when they lost their virginity, posted by a 14 yr old. http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?... And now I'm sitting here (mommy of 4 children) thinking omg my daughter's going to be 14 in 5 yrs and some of these kids have already lost theirs! AAAAAAA What do I dooooo to keep them from making the same mistakes as me? And how is it that the age of losing virginity seems to be getting younger and younger and younger. Everywhere there is teenage pregnancies...like mine...but it seems it's getting more and more common and acceptable each year. How do we keep our children from being another statistic...from going with the "trend" so to speak...especially if we, ourselves, f'd up by starting too young? I was preg at 16.5 yrs old. I'd like to hope, by giving them a better life than I had, this will help. But...all I can say to that post, is WOW :( Kids having kids....experimenting with s*x at age 12!?!? Very very sad to me.

Answer 1

My dear history repeats itself. U should have instilled good moral values in ur kids, but this does not ensure that after instilling such values ur kids will not commit the same mistakes u did. I guess u just have to behave like a friend and talk to ur kids and never force ur opinion. If they wish to loose their virginity then there is nothing u can do, but if they share their feelings with u they u can at least advise them accordingly.

Answer 2

I think you just need to keep the best relationship you can with your kids. Try to be an open book with them instead of make them feel like things are sooo bad that they could never tell you. If your kids feel like they can come to you when they are feeling pressured about things without it being awkward or without you trying to be too strict to keep them away from things then they might feel like they have more of an option to say yes or no. I think the talks need to come a lot sooner than they do come. Just make sure they are aware that they have a choice and that if you give it up too soon you can never get that back so to be sure.  

Answer 3

It's happening when they are younger and younger because they are reaching maturity sooner because of all the hormones in food like soy which is in a whole lotta stuff and thats like estrogen. I heard that can make boys g*y too but i don't know about that! And they add hormones to fruits and vegatable with genetically engineered food

Answer 4

I am very saddened my oldest is 21 and lost her virginty to a thug and got preganant, she lost the baby, she knew him for 3 months, my 19 year old has been with her bf for 4 years and nothing has happened(hopefully), my 17 son has had s*x it is crazy the rest of my children have decided to wait until they are married, and i am thankful for that

Answer 5

I'm pretty young myself, only 17, and I've seen this happen so many times around me. Kids having kids... It makes me sad that this is the generation I'm gonna be from, and I can't see how anyone can be that way... to be having s*x at 12???? that's insane. Most people I know still believed in cooties at that age lol.

The best thing I think to do it to let your kids know how hard it is to deal with having a baby so young, and having to become an adult when they should still be enjoying childhood. That might get through...

Answer 6

I'm more scared than anything else. One of my friends got pregnant again recently (we're in our late twenties) and she was telling me that she hopes her baby is not going to be a girl because it's just too scary how kids mature these days. Cellphones at 8yo, having boyfriends at 10yo, and this other girl asked in Yahoo Answers if she might be pregnant and she's only 12!!

I don't think we can actively do anything to make them not have s*x at a young age, it's all about how values are imparted to them and the rest is up to them.