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I am shaking right now cuz I can't believe what is happening to me. My last boyfriend was a cheater....so this time around I thought I met this wonderful guy...my best friend set me up with him. She has known him for 15 years and said he would be buried alive before he would cheat...he is wonderful. Well, just to test him, my hottie girlfriend has been iming him, kind of coming onto him. After a week of this, she asked him point blank if he would have s*x with her behind my back...he said "yes I would, cuz you are hot." He then started asking them where and when they could meet, but he said that I cannot find out about it. Please somebody tell me....would most men do this when given the option? I really liked this guy and I was starting to fall for him. I asked him (cuz I know this test was going on) and I said "would you ever be with Brooke behind my back?" He said "no way, you mean a lot to me and I could never hurt you that way". Then he goes and emails her and tells her all this sexual stuff and how bad he wants her behind me. When she said "gotcha" to him, then he says "well I was testing you also". Ya right. Please, somebody tell me whats going on with men. Is this just something we have to live with here? I am not ugly, men tell me I am beautiful, and I keep myself very clean and wear good clothes...I have to, I have a professional job. So, it isn't like I am some creepy ugly thing who deserves cheaters. NO ONE DESERVES CHEATERS. I am 31 and this guy is 42. Tell me this has happened to you...I am completely mortified.

Answer 1

Well usually a guy will have to do this at least once... Then most of the times he'll feel bad and not do it again.

Notice how I don't believe in "once cheater always cheater".

As to what could you do... Well you probably shouldn't have had your friend lie to him... But now, seems like the best thing to do is to confront him. But don't act too accusative, just say what happened and how you feel. Of course, you'll have a hard time explaining to him why you did this in the first place... I'm not the one to say if it was wrong or not, though.

Answer 2

I'd say about half of guys would and half wouldn't.  And you'll never know about it until it happens or you do a "test" like the one you mentioned.

Answer 3

msg me

Answer 4

It sounds like the guys a jerk and you deserve a lot better. He's just some 42 year old weirdo trying to get as much *** as he can.

I'd never do this to somebody, even if I didn't particularly care for them.

Answer 5

I hope you leave him.

You don't deserve that.

Cheaters it's just something we are all have to face nowadays.

You had doubts about him and that's why you tested him and he failed.

The hotter the fire is, the purest the gold becomes. He is not worth a tear from your eyes.



Next time you put your eyes on someone; test him before he tastes you.

Answer 6

Look, I'm a guy, so I don't get all of this. But I have had a girlfriend have s*x with my best friend that's a guy (most of my friends are girls) and I nearly threw him out a window when he was hanging out at my place (he let it slip while he was drunk). I didn't though, 'cause I can't drink yet, and I'm not a psycho murderer. I did call up my girlfriend and tell her that she better have a really good explanation or else her and I were through. I ended up never speaking to her again. So my advice would be to confront him and threaten to dump him. If he had any respect for you, he'd tell the truth. Another option is to get him drunk.  

Answer 7

You are a normal female who is aroused by and attracted to men who treat you like dirt. Nothing unusual. You will find most women with men like that. They all SAY they want a nice guy, but they have their feet in the air as soon as they find a jerk.

You probably ignore the nice guys all around you.

When a grrl tells me she wants to have s*x with me, I say great but you have to get my g/f to have s*x with you first.

btw the middle school and high school grrls test their b/f like that all the time. It is awful for a guy to listen to because the poor sap is standing on the railroad tracks and he don't hear the train coming.

Gawd, I love ripcord's story - that is what happens to nice guys.

Answer 8

I would never do anything like that.  I would never cheat on a girl, even if there was no chance she would ever find out.  It is so scum bag, and I am no scum bag.  

I think guys like that should be put on a bus, then a boat, and left in gitmo.

Answer 9

you know not all guys are this way, my ex girl friend did this same "test" with me when we first got togeather. She had two very nice looking friends really lay it on thick trying to see if i would take the bait.

well the honest truth i didnt even bite, i really cared for her a i wouldnt hurt her like that. well wouldnt you know it she ended up cheating on me.

Answer 10

aww.

most guys would probably have s*x if given the option, but there are few who wouldnt, and thoseare the ones you want to look for. he didnt cheat tho, he was about to and planning it, with your best friend, thats pretty low of him. i say when your out looking for a boyfriend, dont let a friend hook you guys up ,she knows whats best for herself, you know whats best for you, all you have to do is look/

good luck and best wishes.

Answer 11

give up love doesnt exist  

Answer 12

I'm so sorry to hear about this but truthfully the pain will lessin in time. :(

Answer 13

Unfortunately, I believe most guys would probably bite on that test.  It's not because we're all terrible people.

MOST guys don't get hit on like that.. ever.  Your guy wasn't going out of his way to tag your hot girlfriend, but the opportunity was set right on his lap.. for an entire week.  It would be like putting a pie in front of a starving fat kid and expecting him not to eat it.

Next time administer the test with a friend that's not so hot..  

Answer 14

First off, I do not see why you would sabotage a relationship like that. Granted it is really messed up what he did. But if you had the guts to set him up, then you gotta be able to take the bad with the good in that situation. I do not agree on what he did by any means. I have never cheated nor been cheated on. So i am not an expert on this topic. I just trust whomever i am with not to, and I hope that they trust me as well. If i found out that a girl i am dating tried to "test" me i would break up with her. And my theory is that if a person is single at the age of 42, their is a reason for that. Barring divorce or widowing.

Answer 15

It is only 9:23 on the West Coast. The whole world is not on Eastern or Central.

Answer 16

Sorry to say, but most men rnt like this,

i gues bad luck.

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Answer 17

I think there are many men out there who would cheat and many who wouldn't.  Based on the statistics I have seen, I would guess that about 50% of men would do it.  You just have to take your time to really get to know somebody and get a good sense of who he is.  Never assume that you can trust any guy until you've been with him for a while.  I guess it's a good thing that you caught this one early on.