Is anything wrong with my mind?

Question

This is a question that takes alot of maturity to answer and please respond with a mature/honest answer.

I'm 17 years old and am male. I'm generally a nice guy and try to be very caring. When I grow up, I plan to donate to various charities and become a high school math teacher. I'm very good at school, especially math. I was born with cerebral palsy but it is very mild and is only affects me physically, tho I can still walk and function and some people barely realise I have it until I walk for a couple of minutes. The problem is that, though I'm a nice guy, sometimes I feel that maybe I'm sick in the head. Like most teenage guys, I tend to think about girls and lust but the problem is that I think I am overdoing it. I m********e at least twice a day and I want to stop because I hear that it can cause problem when having s*x in the future. Sometimes, I lust for friends and some cute young teachers and they'd probably be shocked if they knew I did. I also grew up in a family where me and my brother are younger than our cousins who are in their mid-late 20s. Some of my girl cousins are hot I'll admit but I also sometimes lust for them too. I know this is wrong because most ppl would think I'm insane. I would never lose my virginity to someone other than a gf or wife but I do sometimes fantasize abt seeing these girls in lingerie, seducing me and just kissing and touching. I am also not obsessed with p**n as I haven't seen p**n in over a year. Is this normal for a teenager? If not, what must I do to stop this?

Answer 1

You're almost horned up more than me. I had slept almost 30 girls before I was even out of high school. And one of my earliest memories was looking up my nursery school teachers dress. I also have HOT cousins but like you we know where to draw the line. You'll be fine.

Answer 2

you're just horny and hope to find someone who is hot that you can lust over

Answer 3

Completely normal. Males really have raging hormones around getting to their 20's. It just happens like that. There's nothing wrong with you.

Answer 4

you may have "lost" your mind

Answer 5

You are so normal that you could be a dictionary definition of normal.  Masturbation will not cause sexual problems in the future.  

Your hormones are working overtime and that is normal at your age.  Hormones don't know and don't care if you're related to anyone or if you should be attracted to a teacher or not.

You sound like a bright, intelligent and reasonable young man.  Good luck!

Answer 6

Thoughts are just thoughts, they cannot hurt us, they do not make us weird. Of course we do not act on every thought, and shouldn't.

It is completely normal  to have sexual thoughts. It sounds like to me you know right from wrong... If you have a thought and you know it is wrong... then just say to yourself. This is just a thought, I will not dwell on it. Then just go on. Replace it with a healthy thought.

When you have sexual thoughts about your cousin, say to yourself. yes she is attractive, but she is my cousin.

  

Answer 7

I think you are a teenage boy obsessed with s*x. This is not unusual-----in fact I think almost all teen boys go thru this.

Your palsy problem probably contributes to this. Teen boys get rid of a lot of sexual energy just by getting tired in sports, etc.

The fantasizing sound harmless to me ---providing it does not keep you from more productive activity. You certainly should not feel guilty or "abnormal" about this.

I suggest you try and get very interested and get some satisfaction out of some non-sexual activity. Eventually you should grow out of this ----getting accustomed to raging hormones takes time.

Answer 8

i would suggest the only thing wrong with your mind is expecting a sensible answer.

Answer 9

Masturbation is very healthy and normal. The only problem it can cause is if you do it quickly and mentally you have a fear of being caught. It can cause pre ejaculation problems as an adult. Just be comfortable with it and yourself. Totally normal. So, grab some conditioner and get going!

Answer 10

Perfectly normal, dude! Lots of us girls are/have been like that, but we'll never admit it to you!

OMG! Raya-x: Think about what you say to people ffs!!!

Answer 11

The less pressure you put on yourself to not not think about it, the easier it will be for you.  Just like when you try to make yourself sleep, that's when you're most awake.  Your "fantasies" are harmless as long as you don't confuse them with reality.  You're young enough where a good wind could give you wood, so relax.  You're not going to hurt anything or anyone as long as you keep to yourself, and learn that what you do in your own private time should be kept there.  No one wants to hear your fantasies, least of all anyone who you're not dating, and for the love of Pete, don't tell anyone that you think about them.  Like I said, The less pressure you put on yourself, the easier those thoughts will surface and disappear.  Concentrate on your school work, and be friendly to everyone, that is how you will meet your life partner.  Don't pressure anyone or yourself, just be friendly, and things will happen naturally.  Don't think that some girl will sleep with you out of pity or that you have to act better than you are because of your illness.  Relax and take it easy, relationship happen, you can't make them happen, they just do.  And I applaud your plans for your future, good luck to you.

Answer 12

AWW Mr Clutch!! you are sooo normal! ..at least, if you are sick in the head then i am too..and my friends...

i don't spank the monkey as much as i used to, and my s*x drive is defiantly getting less as i get older, but i remember being 17 and i think i even masturbated MORE than you and have had no problems from it.  i think lust is fine..as long as you know how to act and don't let it control you, there's nothing wrong with fantasising and looking.

..and i think you should loose your virginity to a friend rather than girlf or wife, so you know what your doing and get a chance to practice.

good luck with your life plans. you sound great.

Answer 13

You are ok. You are going through all normal stuff for a 17 year old guy. Even being attracted to your cute cousins is normal. So is the fantasizing about ladies you know in lingerie. The masturbation at your age.. also normal. You just have a whole lot of extra testosterone right now because of your age. I believe this libido issue will clear itself up when you hit your early 20's or so. You are human so you will always fantasize.. it goes right along with being human. The really over the top sexual urges will mellow out as you mature.

If you feel you m********e too much or fantasize too much try to distract yourself by doing other things or changing your train of thought when you catch yourself. Whatever you do, don't start feeling like a weirdo because nothing you wrote here is abnormal for your age. Above all don't punish yourself for your feelings.. you sound smart and self aware and that will keep you being a balanced person while you are going through that rough patch that is going from being a boy to a mature man.

I have a feeling from your question you are growing into a really good, stable man. No worries.

Answer 14

Masturbating is normal and it seems like you are aware of the lines that need to be drawn with the cousins. Your normal, so dont stress so much.  

Answer 15

All teenage boys have feelings like that. I don't think there is any teenage boy alive who doesn't m********e at least once a day. You're normal. Now if you were having violent sexual feelings that would be a different story.