Is aybody else stressing about their wedding?

Question

My fiancee and I are planning to marry May 16, 2009. I'm stressing about being a plus size bride. My fiance only weighs 130 pounds which makes it worse. I'm also stressing about affording a wedding for 200 people. I kind of want to put the wedding off for now but my grandfather is 71 and his health is not that great. I want him to be able to see me get married. But I also want what every woman wants my dream wedding which I can't afford. How is everybody elses planning going?

Answer 1

I'm with you.  We've been engaged for just over a month, haven't even set a date yet and I'm stressed already.  I'm worried about paying for the small wedding.  I'm worried about trying to plan and go to grad school at the same time.  I'm worried that my family will throw a fit because I want to get married before I finish graduate school (in 4+ years).

On the positive side, we've decided on having a summer wedding and colors (light green and light blue).  Also, a good friend of ours who's a photographer has agreed to do the photography for us.  We're doing things a little out of order, but oh well. I'm taking baby steps getting ready for this thing.

Another thing I'm worried about is being too tall, my fiance is an inch shorter than me.  This is a huge thing to my grandmother who insists on me waiting to find a man that I "can look up to."  I told her, as sweetly as I could, that if our heights mattered that much to me, I wouldn't have dated him in the first place.  That was 6 months ago and she hasn't said to word to me about it since.  I'm happy with him, he's happy with me, even if we aren't the picture perfect couple my grandmother has imagined I'd be part of.  We're happy together and we make a good team.  I think that is what's really going to matter  a few years after we're married.

Good luck and ask for a back rub, or a bubble bath, or some alone time (whatever makes you happy and de-stressed)  when you need it.

Answer 2

you are never alone as a stressed out bride.  I am also a plus-size bride (sept 2009) My friend's sister just got married she is a size 28 and she looked gorgeous in her dress and all done up.  Size is just a number so don't worry about that.  If you feel better, try working out a bit (also an amazing way to deal with stress)

I am getting my dress from www.bridalonlinestore.com  I'm hearing amazing reviews about it, and a friend of mine just called me to tell me she got her dress from there and it was PERFECT!

Try to cut down your guest list.  Start by making a couple lists. the A list (absolutely MUST get an invite) and the B list (kind of like your waiting list, you'd like them there but don't HAVE to be there, like 3rd cousins, or people from work etc).  See if you can trim your list down that way.  I had mine at 150, got it down 60 and it's not moving up again.  Everyone is free to come to the ceremony, but 60 is my reception limit.

Good luck!!!  you aren't alone hun!!!

Answer 3

Hey.  That's my wedding date too!!!  We can stress together.  :)  I was really getting stressed and moody about everything at first.  But you know what??  May 16 gives us a lot of time to get everything done.  This is good, yet also gives you a lot of time to decide on something you like, and then something you like better, and something you also like, and I find the more options I have, the more confused I'm getting.  I guess my problem is that I just like too many things. LOL. I am struggling with my weight too.  I always was smaller in the 120's and after highschool I can't believe I've gained over 50 pounds.  I am trying to lose weight, but I am also getting a beautiful dress that has a corset and a ruched waist.

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I don't think you should put your wedding off.  If you are in love, you will find a way to make your day perfect, even without spending a fortune.  Don't wait like I did.  I have no grandparents left, and neither does he (even though we are both in our mid twenties)  If you found your true love, you should marry asap, and not regret it down the road.  Good luck, and feel free to email me if you want any help with anything.  I am actually almost done with everything I can plan in advance. :)

Answer 4

Why are you stressing about being a plus sized bride? There is nothing wrong with that. Your fiance proposed to a plus size woman - he knows what size you are and he loves it. I've seen absolutely beautiful plus sized brides. You know what looks good on you and what flatters your figure.

For instance, I absolutely HATE my arms. I knew that I wanted a wedding dress with sleeves. I thought it would be very hard because of the fact that most dresses these days are strapless, but I was able to find one right away. My confidence went up 200% because of the fact that I didn't have to show my arms.

There are ways to have your dream wedding on a budget. Certain things that you feel will be important won't matter to you on that day. What is going to matter is the important people in your life being there, like your grandfather, and enjoying the day with your husband.

I was so worried about the centerpieces. I wanted them to be big and tall with lots of flowers. I stressed about them for a long time. As my husband and I were driving home after the reception I turned to him and said, "Oh my god - what did the centerpieces look like?" I hadn't even had a chance to notice that day.

Your day can be beautiful without having to spend a lot of money...and you don't have to be a size 0 to enjoy your day with your husband. Don't let anything ruin that moment for you because I am sure you will look beautiful as long as you are in love, have your head held high and are smiling.

Answer 5

You shouldn't put your wedding off, I know a website that can help you do your wedding cheap at www.shellyleppertdesigns.com. They have new and used wedding gowns you can rent cheap, flower girl dresses, ring bearer tuxes, you can rent for like 15.00, and they have other wedding items you can rent as well. Every woman should be able to have a beautiful wedding. Check it out they will also help you if you do not have a lot of money.

Answer 6

Oh my gosh....yes I am stressing over mine like BIGTIME lol.  I am getting married in 38 days.  We have the day, the time, and we had the place until people started renovations on it, so that's out now.  His mom is wanting to have a simple wedding in the yard beside of our house, but it is slanted and gravity will be an issue :(.  People will be seated and feel like they're gonna roll down the hill lol.  I am at wits end for trying to think of a place.  Time isn't on our side at all, so yeah...I'm pretty stressed about this issue.  Another thing is that my fiance's mother feels like she can't keep a huge party organized, but I myself have a big family and don't want to cut them out.  I know that they want to see me get married.  It's been a pretty rough few months.  On top of that, my mother passed away back in April, so I get emotional about that issue.  We are planning to do a memorial candle lighting in honor of her though.  Doesn't make it any easier let me tell you.  You're definately not alone.  I would wear a size 18 dress if I were to wear one.  I have really broad shoulders, so don't worry about being a plus size bride.  Your fiance is marrying you for who you are.

Answer 7

Hi there,



I'm kind of in the same boat, my wedding's for Oct. 2009, and I too am a plus sized bride to be and my fiancee is in great shape.  Also my guests so far range from 150 to 220!  I have a for sure list and a maybe list.  Yet I haven't stressed too much about it just yet as I've been planning it for 2 years, but what my fiancee and I have done is we've made a budget chart, of all the "to do's" in the order as they should be booked (like those bridal mags), then we jotted an estimate price of what our goal is, after as we book things month by month we'll jot down the actual price and we save all our receipts for anything to do with the wedding.  We update our chart also month to month.  Really keeps us on track.  Our goal no matter what is to beat our estimates.  So far we've done a really good job at that.  I for one am also a "want it all" & "best of the best" kind of bride as I have what people tell me "rich blood"  but I realize also that at the end of it all, on my wedding day, while it could be so grand and majestic yet if we're unlucky with guests not showing up etc....we'll be stuck then with all this debt, and that is just not worth it for me.  I'd much rather have the security of a nice home over a grand n' posh wedding.  As long as the people I love most are there, and all my guests enjoy the food and alcohol, that's what makes me happy - that they truly enjoyed themselves.  With that said, we're on a 25, 000 budget (we're trying to actually make it under 20), and believe me with the time that you still have left in May '09 you can find amazing deals out there on everything! Just be open to thinking outside of the box, think of friends who are creative that can help.  I got a bunch of stuff from the dollar store and made really adorable bombenieres! and I far beyond bet my estimate.   I'm just taking care of it  one deposit at at time, and any extra money we can make from extra jobs here and there, we put it aside towards the hall, so by then it'll be either paid off fully or at the worst just mostly covered.  Hon, if you have to think of putting it off due to money, (as I used to once think in the very begginning) then there will always be something else that creeps up to keep pushing you 3 steps back from having this wedding.  Life is too short, just do what you can, one deposit at a time, keep realistic goals, and if you have to forego having the "very best" over something "nice" then just do it.  All in all, those people who really care for you and love you, won't even harp on all the little details, they're just there to support you.  At the very worst case scenario, you can always get a loan (for the hall only-don't depend on a loan for the entire wedding - big mistake) and just make absolutely sure that you put the money back from your busta asap!

Well I hope this helps somewhat. Just remember there's so much great deals out there. Ever think of renting your dress instead of buying? or selling your dress after? Do your own makeup? have someone you know who's creative make your cake? do your hair etc....

Oh and as for the plus size issue, well I'm taking it one day at a time, if I end up cheating, I'll get right back on track the very next MEAL not the next day.. that has really really helped me. I've lost some not major but hey at least I'm trying. And I still have to Oct. 09 to meet my goal. I'm keeping positive.  I  also am not trying to get skinny or anything, I know my man loves me for me, and he's never once pressured me into losing weight, I just want a dress with sleeves b/c I really hate my arms, and so I'm just trying to lose weight to improve my arms, if that's takes 20 or 30 lbs, I don't know yet, but in the meantime, I'm not too much harping and obsessing over it otherwise I wouldn't have cheated as much as I have LOL, but I just keep positive with this, and I do know that there are so many georgous plus sized brides, and obviously your man musn't have any issue with that anyways if he's marrying you. So keep that in mind. Be yourself and love yourself. Because that kind of beauty will outshine everyhing! and that's the most beautiful!

Good Luck with your wedding I'm sure you'll be fine :   )