Is being adopted since u were born make a difference in how your family treats you? did u know u were adopted?

Question

Did it make a difference?

Answer 1

I am 73 and have just adopted a lady 4 years my junior, our families think we are nuts but we are happy with the arrangement so stuff them all.......................

Answer 2

My niece has two adopted children and she loves them as much as any parent could love their children.  Her husband was adopted also.  I knew his mother before she died.  She was so delighted when she  was able to get him and a little later his sister.   Any child adopted by my niece and my nephew in law is very very lucky!

Answer 3

depends if your the only child that is adopted.

a good parent should  love you no matter what and treat you as their own. otherwise why bother to adopt.

Answer 4

My grandmother was adopted and I must say that no matter how accepting the adopted family is, there is always going to be an asterisk placed next to you. You're a child, but an adopted child. In my grandmother's case, her adopted mother had bio children as well as adopted children, and believe me there was a marked difference in how both the immediate and extended family treated them as opposed to the adopted kids.

For all you people giving me the thumbs down you must've never been adopted. Speaking from my grandmother's experience, she had an adopted aunt who told her when she was 8 years old that she wasn't blood relation and so therefore she wasn't obligated to get her anything for her birthday. They once took a family photograph and excluded her and her brother from it. Oh yeah and who could forget one of the nephews telling her that she shouldn't ride in the front of the funeral procession of one of her adopted brothers because she wasn't blood relation? So please don't judge me when I say this, it's for a reason.

Answer 5

im adopted. i was adopted when i was about 3-4 years old. and sadly, my birth dad died shortly after that. he smoked, he drank, he took every kind of drug that there was, but the reason that he died was that he got hit by a drunk driver. so i dont drink, i dont smoke, i dont do any drugs.

but i re-met my birth mom when i was 13 years old. and have kept in contact every since. and i just lost my birth grandma, on 4-20-07.

be4 i got adopted, my mom was very sick when she had me. so i was with my birthmom for awhile, then my grandma, then my moms sister, then i was in foster care for about 2 years. and then i got adopted.

i know whats it like to get adopted, not knowing who ur real parents or family are. or anything.

im now almost 22. and i still dont know that much about my birth family. i see them every other month or so. and im still shy around them too.

Answer 6

I have to disagree with Andrew's answer.  I was born into a family of five biological children and after we were raised my parents adopted two daughters from China.  There is no difference in the love I have for my biological siblings and the love I have for my adopted siblings. Love IS LOVE!  I treat my siblings (adopted or biological)  the same way I treat any human being... with the love and respect that they  deserve.  My mom has an aunt that adopted two sons who are  in their sixties now.  The long and the short of it is that as far as they were concerned, my great aunt was their mother and they had no desire to find their bio moms. It truly  depends on the individuals involved.