Is being left for someone else the same thing as being cheated on?

Question

One of my exes left me for another girl. This was over 2 years ago and I managed to stay strong and get on with my life. At fist he started calling me less and less to a point were he just stopped calling. Then he called me one night out of the blue telling me that we just couldn’t continue our relationship since he is going back to school. Then I saw him with another girl holding hands the following day. It was very painful.

Answer 1

I had that happen to me. And yes it hurt me very deeply.. Apparently he was bored with me, and found someone much better to be with. And yes he was cheating on me with her behind my back. She later cheated on him with her husband.. So pay back is a *****!

good luck to you. :)  

Answer 2

sounds like he was cheating before he left you so yeah

Answer 3

Honestly, don't worry about the technicality of whether or not he was cheating as it won't help you one bit. The more you dwell on it, the more you miss out on life.

Just focus on one thing: you're better off not being with any man who doesn't want to be with you. Every woman deserves to be loved and respected and should love and respect her partner just as much.

All the best :)

Answer 4

I'd rather they left, my ex-wife cheated on me for 6 months before I found out, that's 6 months of lies & endangering my health with possible STD. And as the other's said you'll be better off without him. Good Luck!

Answer 5

If your asking this question you are in denial. Move on its over. Get over it cause hes over you.

Answer 6

It's hard to say without knowing you or him, but from what you wrote, it does sound as though he was with someone else.

I've been cheated on in the past as well and it's a very painful experience. Know this though :  any man who cheats is no man at all.

The right guy is out there, and will probably find you when you're least expecting it.

Answer 7

it means he cared enough about you not to cheat on you

Answer 8

It's the exact same thing. If someone leaves you for someone else, that means that whether mentally or physically, they were cheating. I'm sorry you had to go through that - it's a painful experience. Stay strong. The right one will come along!!

Answer 9

If you managed to stay strong and get on with your life, why are you still troubled by this?  Leaving you for someone else does not constitute cheating.

Answer 10

he was already cheating and was letting you go so he wouldnt feel guilty.

Answer 11

Yes, he was obviously.  I know how painful that can be. I had it happen to me too. I lived 15 years with a drunk who was abusive but faithful. I lived 2 years with a guy who cheated. The cheating was way more painful than any abuse I took from the drunk for some reason. It made me act crazy and want to retaliate. Then I realized how immature and crazy I was acting. We girls all have our insane breakup moments dont we ?  I then heard a saying that changed my life. I learned to be the bigger person and have class in these situations and not act like a crazy immature girl. They simply said "hold your head up with the grace of a woman and not the grief of a child".  I now ALWAYS remember that and try to have GRACE in tough situations like this. It is a sign that you are turning into a woman. You not only act more mature doing this, it changes how you feel about yourself inside. Its great to be secure in yourself and move on and leave this person in the past. He was simply put there for a purpose, for you to learn a lesson. The lesson was learned and now you can move on .  

Answer 12

Well if you were together and he was talking to someoen romantically I see it the same is cheating.  You should not allow youself to get close enought to someone to fall for them if you are already with someone else.