Is being to close to your parents a good reason to go to boarding school?

Question

another reason is i hate the school i went to last year so i started homeschooling and it isn't the thing for me so i feel like that is the only other option i have unless i want to go back to the same school as last year (which i hated)

Answer 1

Do your parents know that you have separation anxiety?

I'm not sure that you have to go to (the extreme) of boarding school.

With the flexibility of homeschooling, work with your parents to take advantage of other opportunities to be more on your own.

There are bunches of opportunities - find clubs, coop classes, community college classes, etc.

If your parents do not know you are feeling anxious you should talk to them and explain that you want to develop more confidence and independence.

Answer 2

I'd say so. I'd miss my kid terribly if she was sent off for days and days at a time.

Answer 3

I think the answer cannot come from us - it must come from your parents.  If you are unhappy at school, unhappy homeschooling - maybe you should give it a try.  You can always come home.  Here is a site that reviews different boarding schools.  Good luck to you!  Everyone deserves happiness.

http://www.boardingschoolreview.com/

Answer 4

My family is extremely close.  One of our main reasons for homeschooling is to keep our family together.  If my kids need some space from me or each other, we arrange that.  But there's nothing on earth that would make me desire distance in my family.

EDIT:  When I say my family is extremely close, I don't just mean my kids.  We live in the country.  There's me, my husband, our three kids, my elderly mother-in-law and my impaired dog.  Next door is my brother-in-law.  A very short distance away is my sister-in-law, her husband and their three teenagers.  Most of the family works together in a family business.  There's nothing immature about being close to your family.  You won't fail to grow up because you love your parents.  I don't know what I'd do without each and every element of my family.  The absence of any one of them would leave a huge hole in my life.  It's not separation anxiety.  It's love.

Answer 5

I'm sorry you are having difficulties with separation anxiety.  Separation anxiety is not cured by "growing up," because it has nothing to do with being childish.  It is a bona fide anxiety disorder which needs professional treatment.  Gong to boarding school will not make the anxiety go away.

Your doctor can refer you to a specialist who can help you overcome this disorder.

Be well.

Answer 6

being close too close to your parents is not a good reason to go to baoding school

homeschooling is not good, even if you are close to your parents.

i guess you should go to the boarding school is your regualr school is no good

Answer 7

No, I'd say being 'too close' to your parents is not an adequate reason for going to boarding school.

Typically, kids who are close to their parents are secure and confident about separating from them; kids who are very close to their parents tend to be very confident and very secure about leaving them. It simply is not possible to be 'too close' to your parents, only 'too clingy'. You certainly don't sound 'too close' to your parents to me (sorry). You sound clingy and insecure; separation anxiety is an issue for clingy, insecure people. I reckon you'd be heaps better off directing your time and energies towards finding ways that will help you and your parents to strengthen your feelings of security and overall confidence instead.

BTW I wouldn't necessary go for that line about kids at boarding school not doing drink, drugs, s*x etc: heaps of my mates are away at boarding schools, we looked at several when I had one of my then periodic 'I want to go to school' moments (now defunct thankfully!) and, believe me, some of the stories I could tell you would make your hair curl, lol! And probably send your parents grey at the same time! You should *definitely* believe what ladylisamc says. Boarding schools can be pretty wild places; I even know of one 13 yr old who came home pregnant from her ever so exclusive and expensive boarding school!!

One of the reasons why our parents won't allow any of us to go away to school is because they went to boarding school themselves and they know what *really* does go on that such schools are desperate for both current and potential parents not to find out about.

PS There is more than one type of homeschooling available to you and your folks. Rather than dismissing home-ed out of hand as being 'not the thing' for you, perhaps you and your parents simply hadn't found the most appropriate form of home schooling to suit your circumstances, your personality, your learning styles etc last year. You can literally homeschool in anyway you want; make it up to suit yourself and what *IS* the thing for you.

EDIT: If you're serious, there are *some* boarding schools, very good boarding schools, where the kids are properly supervised; don't do drugs, s*x, booze etc; and where you can be sure of getting an excellent, rigorous, challenging all-round education. Such schools are to be found in places such as Ghana, Kenya, Nigeria, Botswana, Senegal and South Africa. They're the boarding schools I'd be looking at going to, if I ever decided I wanted to go to school.

Answer 8

TOO close? I hope you just mean you want a bit more time by yourself, but boarding school would be going from one extreme to the other. Just go out more. Sit in the library to study, join a club, just find creative ways to be out of the house more. If you hated PS I wouldn't put too much faith in boarding school.

Answer 9

"i feel like i need to go to boarding school so i can grow up. if anyone wants to know why i hate my school it is b/c the kids at my school only care about drinking and doing drugs. at boarding school it is more structured, no one can do drugs or drink AT school."

When I was young, I loved The Facts of Life television show.  I was sad that my parents chose not to "send me away" to boarding school.  Looking back now, I'm glad I had the time with my family that I did.  

Secondly, DO NOT KID YOURSELF that 'NO ONE CAN DO DRUGS OR DRINK at boarding school."  I went to Harvard for undergraduate where dozens and dozens of kids came from boarding schools.  And who were the kids (few though they were) who did not return after freshman year or who quit during the first year because of DRINKING problems or drugs?  That's right, the kids from boarding school.  Also, these kids were exposed to s*x at a much earlier age too.  They're not sheltered while they're there.  You will never be safer than with your own parents in your own home.  

You may want to check into some of the charter high schools in your area.  Go to www.greatschools.net to compare the schools in your city and call them to see if you can enroll there.  That would be the best of both worlds.

Why did you hate your school last year?  Was it because it was too large and impersonal or unsafe?  Charters are usually smaller and give more individualized education.  Good luck!!!