Is being untruthful or withholding information lying?

Question

Say I go out of my way one day (drive to another city) to meet a friend and give him my credit card so that he can live off of it for the next month and I never tell my live in girlfriend (with whom I share all financial obligations with for the last four years) and one day she opens the statement and sees $350 worth of charges to places she has no knowledge of have I lied to her? BTW I loaned my brother $650 in this same fashion and when she later found out that I hadn't consulted her first she was extremely upset. Am I in the wrong for not consulting with her or even telling her about it before she found out? She feels that I have lied to her and I just didn't feel that it was important enough to tell her, Who is right?

Answer 1

Yes, you lied.  I hope she walks out on you.  Four years and you're not even engaged yet?  Let her go, she deserves someone better.  Real loving and committed couples share EVERYTHING.  That's what communication is all about.  You're not responsible enough.  Let her go.  

Answer 2

Hi..If u have agreed to share the financial matters with her then u shud stick to tht. Wht is wrong in telling her u have loaned money to ur friend and bro? If she says dont give then its somethin else. If she s supportive then she will be ok wit it. I mean its ur money...u can do anythin wit it. But u have been sharing financial obligations wit her all these yrs so i think she deserve to know..Be honest

Answer 3

I would say with holding important information IS lying, especially if it is being "casually" not-mentioned because you KNOW how someone (your girlfriend) would react.

However, I know that feeling though, where if she doesn't find out about it, it wouldn't be a big deal (because there was no personal betrayal to her), so it would be easier if it just never came up. But if it comes up later, it's even worse, because you "casually" didn't mention it.

Answer 4

SHE!!! FIRST OF ALL HOW WOULD U LIKE IT IF SHE DID THE SAME THING TO U???

LOOK TO TELL A SINGLE WHITE LIE U HAVE TO KEEP LYING AGAIN TO COVER UP THAT WHITE LIE THAT U MADE PREVIOUSLY OK.....

BE FRANK & OPEN TO HER OK....

Answer 5

yeah it's none of her business.  it's not like she's your wife and you share expenses or anything.  girlfriends just dont realize they dont deserve that kind of respect.

edit:  hey, it's none of her business!! let her pay her share of your charity.