Is chilvary more than just common courtesy ?

Question

If so why is this a privilage for just women/ or why is it giving at all, in these day of thriving for equality on how we treat each other?

Answer 1

I think the line is drawn in throwing your coat over a puddle of water.  Almost everything beyond that is common courtesy regardless of which s*x benefits from it.

Answer 2

Chivalry (in the modern sense) is way more than just common courtesy. It's when a guy opens every door for a girl, it's when he offers to carry whatever she is carrying, it is when he pulls out her chair for her, it's when a guy takes a couple of seconds to take care of her.

Guys have been doing this for ages, mostly because it is expected of them sort of as a "test". If the guy can pull these off, he can take care of her later on in life. And chivalry does exist, but it's rare. It's only in the guys who either aren't wimps, jerks, or too obsessed with their own world to care.

Answer 3

Chivalry is not just how you treat women, in my opinion.  It's when people go an extra step to help anyone.  Common courtesy, which is no longer common in society, is doing just what's needed to be courteous.  Equality issues shouldn't really enter into it.

Answer 4

I try to be chivalrous. I don`t back down from anyone, I`ll protect the poor and weak if I am capable, I treat ladies with respect and am courteous to all others.

I don`t see a problem with that.

Answer 5

Honest to god...what's the obsession today with an extinct code of medieval behavioral standards?

Chivalry not only doesn't exist now, it rarely existed outside of fiction in the Middle Ages. Common courtesy toward other humans is what everyone should strive for.

Answer 6

Chilcary?

Why not just be polite to each other? I think that Chilcary was ok in its time ,but today in modern times we need to be polite to each other more. Just little things like opening or lolding the door for eather gender when leaving or entering a building. Being more polite on the road what be a big one. For us men stop feeling we have to express how manly we are all the time. I  don't mean to say we have to act like women, just common courtesy wiil do.

Answer 7

I would call chivalry common courtesy.  And no, I do not believe it should be one-sided.  I've held doors for men and done other things that are commonly considered chivalrous...for men.  Gender should never be an issue when it comes to common courtesy and good manners.

Answer 8

Yes. Common courtesy is given to everyone, by everyone. Chivalry is given to women, by men. And, no, it's not fair, and I'd like to see it dry up and blow away.

Answer 9

Yeah, it's when men do for ladies what they wouldn't do for a man, just because she's a lady.  For example, helping with heavy luggage.

During travel women will ask a random man to help them get a heavy bag off the conveyor or into the overhead compartment. The guy might have a bad back or just had hernia surgery.  But, she thinks that since he's a man and she's not, he should and will want to help her.   Most men don't mind because we like ladies and want to be nice to them.  

But, we expect men and feminists to either struggle on their own or pack lighter.