Is crying a major turn off...?

Question

When you have s*x for the first time I've heard it hurts bc u are popping your cherry. but I am a virgin and not thinking about having s*x anytime soon(14). but I cant take much pain at all and probably would cry when i do. GUYS is this a major turn off? a turn on??

Thanks in advance!:)

Answer 1

I don't know because I never had s*x so I don't know what it feels like but if you need to cry then so. It might be a turn off to some guys, it might not be but go with your gut.

Answer 2

doesnt sound like your not thinking about having s*x.... but i cried the first time cause it did hurt. but my HUSBAND loves me and he didnt care.

Answer 3

it doesn't hurt REALLY bad the first time. poping your cherry is just stretching some skin out, and it might bleed a little, or not at all. you probably wont cry, so you don't have anything to worry about.

try starting with him on top and tell him to start slow. sometimes it hurts when you aren't "wet" enough.

Answer 4

I think you would scare the poor guy to death!  He'd think he'd injured you.   It's a good idea to go to a gynecologist and get everything checked out beforehand.  That way if the hymen is too thick or there is any other problem it can be dealt with before the wedding night.  My mother and her mother both had unusually thick hymens.  My grandmother lived at a time people didn't discuss such things even with their doctors, and she had no idea.  The act was very very painful and produced a lot of blood.  By the time my mother was ready to marry,  knowledge was much greater, and her doctor was able to snip 3 corners of it in her office so that things would go smoothly on the wedding night - and they did!  No pain at all.   In a safe committed relationship with the man who has vowed to love you and care for you as long as you both live,  he should be sensitive enough to take it easy and make sure you are not in any discomfort.  The advice we give at bachelorette parties is to make sure you have lots of personal lubricant handy for the first time to make  penetration easier.  It doesn't have to hurt,and it doesn't as long as the husband and wife take their time and are considerate of each other.  The hot and heavy stuff you read about can come later when you both are more used to it and know what each other likes.

Answer 5

The pain isn't bad enough to make you cry, and I'm a complete wuss. You might not even feel it tbh. It's nothing to get worked up about.

Remember, billions of women have gone through it!! It's really nothing.  

Answer 6

well absolutely turn they off, but if he loves you he'll be gentle and will know how to treat you