Is dating a younger guy after getting divorce with two children ok?

Question

he's in his mid twenties I'm in my early thirties and have two children between the ages of 5-13 and I've been divorced for two years now the other thing is the guy is a distance relative he's fourth cousin

Answer 1

It's just dating...you probably work full time and have the kids...girl, you need a break...Go out! Have fun! He is legal..who cares what anyone thinks?

Answer 2

Age- okay.

Relative? Um no. Distant or not, gross!

Answer 3

First, No because the age bracket between your oldest child(if its a girl) is too close. Secondly, I don't do forth cousins, its to close. If its not a in-law cousin then h**l no. I believe that's why we have genetic disorder and mentally challenged kids in the world now.  

Answer 4

I'm disgusted.your cousin? wow...

Answer 5

distant cousin??? seriously??? if you ask you know the answer.  That is like saying, do you think it's ok to try on this swim suit withou' panties?  WE ALL KNOW THE ANSWER SO DON"T ASK AND DON'T DO IT!

Answer 6

Well I would have said go for it,but since he's relative No find someone else

Answer 7

It's fine, but dont involve your children...

Answer 8

If you have to ask I think you know the answer.  What does a guy in his mid twenties want with someone who has the baggage of two kids?  No offense but it seems suspicious

Answer 9

Incest = WINcest. JKJK. Fourth cousin's pretty d**n far off, no big deal. There's nothing wrong with your relationship, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

Answer 10

I'm 30 years old and I have 3 little girls ages 6,4,and 3.I'm married,but separated filing for divorce.right now I have a boyfriend & he's 19.its ok that your dating a guy in his mid 20s.my 3 girls have the same dad.I have no kids by my hubby.

Answer 11

no if you are asking us you know something is not right

Answer 12

WHOA! Do you really have to ask if it's ok to date a COUSIN? Gross dude..

Answer 13

I think it is okay for you to date someone younger. You should set the appropriate boundaries in dating when it comes to your children, though. I would no introduce a man to your children too soon. Screen him and if has potential and you see the relationship may be more than short term, then you may introduce him. He has to get along with your children as well. Children are not baggage and anyone you date should be accepting of them as you and your children are a package deal.

The fact that he is your cousin, no matter how distant, that is a red flag. I am sure he is considered to be family. I would leave that one alone.

Answer 14

there is nothing wrong with dating someone 2 years younger than you.

normally I'd say don't bring your dates around the kids until you know that the date will be hanging around for a few or 13 years.  you don't want to have the kids get used to someone who won't be staying and have them get hurt just like a divorce everytime someone you are seeing goes out of your life.

but this person is a relative (even if he is a distant one).  Did he have regular contact with your family before you started dating him?  Is he likely to hang around and visit even if things don't work out between the two of you?

Answer 15

Not recommended.