Is emailing g'ma in violation of DVRO?

Question

i got an email from my sons g'ma that was threatening. she treatened me with being arrested if i attend her sons hearing. i have a DVRO against him currently but i would like to address her threats by replying to her email she sent me. would this have and affect on my DVRO. i wont do it if it could be used to have the order lifted. anyone know anything about this? i prefer knowledge of this sort of thing not just speculation if possible.

Answer 1

Do not e-mail back.  It muddies the waters and can turn it into she-said, she-said.  If you feel you have been threatened go to the police with a copy of the e-mail.  Even if it does not constitute something actionable by the police there will be a record of your complaint and no cross complaint from granny citing your rebuttle.  Also, i am not versed in the laws of your state but generally, if you have a DVRO against someone it is assumed that that person needed the peice of paper to tell them to stay away and that you have the good judgement to stay away from them without having to be issued a court order.  In a sence you are as restricted by the order as the other party.  See if you can get your order enhanced to include members of his immediate family, i.e 'having family members contact you on his behalf'.  

Answer 2

Just leave it alone.  It won't affect your Domestic Violence Restraining Order since your order is against him and not his mother, but it certainly isn't going to accomplish anything positive, either.

If you feel threatened by her emails, get a restraining order against her, also.

Answer 3

This would not lift your DVRO against you. From what I understand, you have DVRO's against you for your son's safety. It sounds like the grandmother is just looking out for the safety of her son (seeing as she has legal custody(speculation) of your son.)

These e-mails wouldn't help you because it does sound like self defense and addressing them with a No contact format kind of restraining order would just dig you deeper into the hole.

Don't do it as a DVRO does constitute no contact.

Best of luck

Answer 4

If you have a DVRO against your son, and you have his Grandmother emailing you, I do believe that the only way that she could get in trouble is if he is using 3rd party to get messages over to you, which is a violation of a Restraining Order.  If I were you, I wouldn't even bother emailing her back, because it will only add fuel to the flame, and from the sounds of it, that is what she wants.

Hope this helped.  

Best of luck