Is emotional intimacy just as important as sexual attraction for men?

Question

One of my guy friends told me that emotional intimacy is an important reason that men are sexually attracted to women. Is this true? It gives me hope theat men are not the pigs I once thought they were.

Answer 1

Yeah, at least some of the men I know. Even when I had a FWB, we would just sit and talk about life after doing you know what.

I know men that want a long-term relationship instead of a hook-up, because they want the whole package of an emotional connection, love, companionship and s*x.

Answer 2

I think it is, even if most guys are unwilling to admit it. s*x on its own is perfectly satisfying for the body, but other parts of you need some satisfaction as well.

Answer 3

Obviously men want someone to love them and need them also.

Men want to be appreciated for who they are as much as any woman.

Answer 4

s*x that involves emotional intimacy with raw attraction is the most intense s*x that both the sexes can experience, and is the best.

s*x for the pleasure of the flesh is part of life too, and there is nothing wrong with this as long as people play safe and respect one another.

Answer 5

It depends how you define 'emotional intimacy.'

If all you mean is someone to confide in, that can be achieved with a close (non-sexual) friend.  I'm not sure why someone would need s*x to achieve anything that I would call 'emotional intimacy.'

Saying that someone has s*x for emotional intimacy strikes me as similar to saying that someone eats because they want dinner conversation - if all you wanted was conversation, you could get that without involving food.

Answer 6

After observing men for a lot of my 51 years I'd have to say it depends on the age of the man.  Older ones who are more mature do but I have to say that they don't find it necessary to have s*x.  But then the truth be told women don't need it to have s*x either... they prefer it mind you but don't need it.  It really just is a depends on the guy and where he is in his life.  Sorry I can't answer this better.

Answer 7

I think most guy's want to love and be loved. But it all depends on the guy. It isn't so much an age thing but what type of person you are.

         Some guy's are shallow and want one thing. Sometimes they wise up most of the time they don't.

     Most guy's, or a large amount want emotional intimacy. I guess knowing someone is there for you that kind of thing.

In-fact there was a study done to see who wanted emotional intimacy more, men or women?

The results are surprising.

(Disclaimer, the writer for the msnbc column is a feminist and used the report to man-bash, looking at the column it is easy to see through her irrational mind.)

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/20585906/

Answer 8

Well, to the more mature ones. Men place less value on intimacy than sexual attraction when they are young. But you also just have some shallow folk who only care about sexual attraction.

Answer 9

Not for me, sexual attraction is far more important.

That's not to say that an emotional bond is not, but I could enjoy being with a hot chick with little emotional attachment , but not with an ugly chick and a strong emotional tie.

Answer 10

unfourtunately no