Is employing a baby maker a good idea?

Question

My friend's wife cannot bear a child. They want a baby but getting one from the institution will take a lot of time effort and money. They want to hire a baby maker. I'd like to help but I don't know anybody who can do it. They prefer someone in Manila or nearby city. Anybody can help?

Answer 1

I'm assuming by the term "baby maker" you mean a surrogate. They should be able to do a search online for an agency that can help match them with a woman hoping to be a surrogate mother.

However, this option is not an "easier", as a lot of time and effort will be involved, and the costs are often MUCH more expensive then a private adoption agency.

Answer 2

Personally, I don't think it's a good idea.  Much of the time, especially with women who have not have children before and don't realize what they're getting into, end up keeping their babies.

And, there are so so so many scams out there, where people are claiming to be 'babymakers' and only are there to take advantage of desperate prospective parents.  It's cruel, but it happens very often.

Good luck,

Melissa

Answer 3

I am making an assumption that you're not in the US because your wording would make what you want to do sound very illegal here in the US.

No matter where you are, you should encourage them to look into adoption.  With the ratification of the Hague Convention, each country is working to actively recruit families from that country to adopt children without parents there.  There are different ways that each country does that, some give stipends, some reduce the fee structures involved in adopting.

Check into it & see what information you can find.

Answer 4

Okay, "baby maker" is not a great term to be using on a site that has many people greiving for the children they cannot have.  The term you would be looking for is serogate mother, and there are several ways that it can be done.

The serogate could be implanted with your friend & wifes pre fertilized embryo, with a complete strangers fertilized embryo, or use your friends sperm with the serogate egg.

If they are truely considering this, make sure that whom ever they choose to be the serogate should be someone they can trust.  Also, someone whom they have singed all the legal contracts stating the child she is carrying belongs to your friend and wife....make sure they have all their "i's" dotted and "t's" crossed.

However, there are many children being carried right now that are going to need homes very soon, they could consider adopting as well.  Call Family To Family Adoptions Inc.  281-342-4042 or fam2fam.org

This is the agency that my hubby and I used when we adopted our daughter.  They are legite and dependable.

Answer 5

The official term is surrogate, and if you want to be taken seriously, you should quit referring to women as machines. I have been a surrogate and it was a very rewarding experience. You need to get them in contact with an agency or a lawyer who specializes in this.

Answer 6

Argh.....your question and comments are so icky on so many levels.  A "baby maker"??  Women are not baby makers.  And you do not get a baby from "the institution".  And yes, adoption takes a lot of time and money -- just like pregnancy and delivery.  There is no short cut to parenthood.

Hopefully, your friend's wife has more tact than you do.

Answer 7

No just adopt a baby that is already born! No point in bringing another baby into this world if there are already so many that need parents!

♥ Priscilla