Is fairness to women a much higher priority among men than fairness to men is among women? If so, why?

Question

From what I've seen, it is true that men care a lot more for women and are more particular about fair treatment to women than women are about men.

Discuss.

A small test:

Suppose two people, a man and a woman are in danger. They're not related to each other, and they're not related to you. If they're the same age, who would you save, if you can only choose one? Coin tosses not allowed.

I asked many people this question, and nearly all of them would save the woman. Why is that?

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Answer 1

Unfortunately it is true.  Men in general care a lot more about the well being of women than women care about men.    Women know this and many of them exploit this societal tendency to great advantage.

As for your situation, I'm not so sure that I'm going to save the woman over the man because I'm personally tired of men constantly getting the short end of the stick and left to fend for themselves.

Answer 2

I do think this is true.  Men are seen as able to do most things for themselves, be more independent, and at times not want help.  While the opposite is seen to be true for women.

In your example I would probably save the woman as well.  Not because she is the woman but because she is probably lighter and I probably have a better chance of saving her.

owians- As a teacher I see this in many classrooms.  I tend to actually be harder on girls because in general they are better able to adapt to many classroom expectations.  The first few days of school I truthfully have the "boys will be boys" attitude toward my students until I get to know their personality and needs.

Answer 3

I think men are traditionally raised to feel protective towards women, but feminism has used this against us i.e. men feel embarrassed to attack feminism, as feminists claim that this is an attack on women. In other words they kick us while we  hold the door for them.

Also feminism has told women  that men are their traditional oppressors, so naturally many women feel a certain level of animosity towards men.

Answer 4

Yes men are more fair to women then women are to men.

Your danger example is a bit bad though, as it's a bit extreme.  Men are raised to be protective of women, so they will always help them.  A better one might be if you saw someone broken down on the side of the road would you stop and help them?

Why-Men are in control, so women feel they don't have to be Fair to the guys.

And on the guy side, guys will just not stop being guys..no matter how unfair it is.  Lots of guys still open doors for women. that's unfair and unequal, but those guys are not gonna stop doing that.

Answer 5

You see it in the classroom, never mind the life-and death situation.  Many teachers will be far kinder to girls for infringements of discipline than boys.  Boys are told from a very young age to protect girls, and girls are still taught to expect special treatment from boys, at the same time as believing and being taught that the male is the opressor.

Many women I know give greater considereration to fellow women because they believe than men/boys should be able to fend for themselves.

Would I save the woman?  I cannot truly say.

Will I cop a serve from a feminist if I hold the door open?  h**l no!

EDIT:

Mrs, I have copped it for being too hard on girls.  I asked once for an outside observer to watch me teach (this is when I taught Co-ed) for a week and assess how I did things, and the oberver was not told to look for and only was questioned about my girls vs boys discipline later and she said I was fair and even handed.  True, boys will be boys, but equally so girls will be girls, and the treatment in the classroom neds to show that girls will not get away with things that boys get disciplined for.  Teenagers are very sensitive about what they percieve as fairness.

I cannot say that girls adapt better, at least in my experience, but they react differently in the classroom, and differ generally in certain ways when it comes to learning.  I try never to favour one gender over the other.  

I guess the odd thing about me is that I am a strong advocate of fixing the education system in which I work (Victoria, Australia) to better serve boys, yet I teach only girls these days.

Would love to hear more about your teaching experiences.  From my early days, I was christened "Mr Hitler" by one of my female students, but she later changed it to "Mr Chirchill" because, according to her, being British made it appropriate, and I "would never surrender to the student's n**i c**p!".  Great thing is that I am still in contact with many of these students.